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User Topic: I knew this day was coming
Guttedagain
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Default  Posted: 3:07 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS got a voicemail from ow2 yesterday. I knew this day would come. She works for one of his biggest customers. Ow1 works for his own company down south. He told his GM about ow1 so all correspondence is only work related by email which i have open access too. Just having a job in this climate is difficult never mind trying to find a new one. i am realistic enough to know this but it makes life so much harder. WS told me about voicemail and we discussed his phoning her back. It was work related and then she brought up their affair. He says he told her, he loves his wife and family snd that it should never have happened and that he didn't want any further contact unless totally work related which should be by email.
He is being open and transparent and i have access to everything, but just the thought of him talking to her yesterday kills me inside. How do others cope with ow still being in the workplace? Its not like daily contact or anything but it seems they will always be there.


BS me 46
WS him 49
Married almost 25 yrs, together almost 30
2 DD 18 & 13
Dday #1 14/4/13
TT until Dday #2 28/4/13
Living one day at a time

Posts: 56 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
hatefulnow
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No advice but feeling your pain!

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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The balls on her broken ass. She has no one, that is why she is sniffing back. I am proud of your husband.


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 637 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your H handled it beautifully and that should help ease your pain some.

I don't know how I would have been able to handle that, if he had to work with OW. It is a difficult thing I am sure.

(((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8145 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He says he told her, he loves his wife and family snd that it should never have happened and that he didn't want any further contact unless totally work related which should be by email.

This is PERFECT!

I know it's hard, but try to focus on you and your husband and how hard he is working to earn your trust back and rebuild your marriage. Don't give her any more space in your head. She isn't worth it.

(((HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Guttedagain
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am pleased he was so open about it. He felt ashamed and was upset and although he knew it was going to hurt me he did realise the importance of truth and he did tell me straight away, rather than let me find it. I'm happy we discussed calling her back. He helped me through my pain last night. I am trying to see it as another hurdle gone.


BS me 46
WS him 49
Married almost 25 yrs, together almost 30
2 DD 18 & 13
Dday #1 14/4/13
TT until Dday #2 28/4/13
Living one day at a time

Posts: 56 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
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