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User Topic: I want a love letter
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Member # 39181
Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish WH would write me one.

Maybe i'll ask him for one later.

Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

Posts: 160 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Illinois
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still no letter. :( I was away 4 days for business trip but no letter. Still holding out a little hope. Sadly thinking the chase to him is the addiction that he mAy never recover from. :(

Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don't expect it from cheap people.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Me=BW 45
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I asked for a letter and my H was honest in his response back. He said that I could not ask for one on the spot, but that I would get one when he was ready to write it. He told me he did not want to have to fake emotions because I was asking him to be honest. About 2 months later I got my first letter and it made me feel special. He then wrote me another that I could keep on me in case I was having a hard day. It truly is the small sentimental things that make me (at least) the most wanted.

let your past make you better not bitter.

Posts: 5 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am trying to locate a love letter from a WH that BW posted in the last 9 months. It was beautiful and I wanted to show it to my WH.

I had asked him to write me a love letter before he left on his last business trip so I would have something for the hard days.

He wrote it about 12 hours before he got home (a little late?) and it basically said "thanks for trimming my ear hairs". I kid you not.

Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 900 | Registered: Jun 2012
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It would be wonderful to get a love letter from my WS. I did not ask directly, but I showed him the topic title and hummmed. Maybe he will take the hint

Me bs 58
Him ws 57
Married 36 years
Children 2, grandchildren 3
Dday 1 2012-11-03, Dday2 2012-12-08
Dday 3 2013-06-20 separating

Posts: 17 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Ontario
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Default  Posted: 3:50 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have asked for a letter several times in the course of r or limbo or whatever is my Life these days... Don't be afraid to ask for it. Don't be afraid to ask for it again. I haven't gotten it or several other things in ave asked for. But I will ask again. And eventually my needs will be met in this M or I will leave this M.

Don't get me wrong, my WH is doing a lot of things differently. He has made a lot of important changes. But he is moving slowly. He is only in IC for about 7 months now of our 1.5 years since d day. And he has years to go (at this pace anyway) if he is to figure his stuff out
End t/j

D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou

Posts: 1479 | Registered: Dec 2011
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Default  Posted: 5:03 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this is a thorn in my side,, I wrote him a love letter, I also wrote him a poem, and he turned the poem into a song as a romantic gesture,, but they were still my words, eve before D-day I always thought how nice a love letter would be but really just dismissed it as hubbys not that type and I was so happy wit him,, but i found out on D-day that he had handwritten and posted her at least one love letter, I don't think I could ask for one,,, but the fact that he took it upon himself to write her one but never in 10 years thought to write me one stings.

D-day 1 august 1st 2012
D-day 2 October 31st 2012

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