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Helen of Troy
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Exclaimation  Posted: 7:02 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If anyone knows me you know that I am a soft spoken petite-size wearing quiet introvert. I have a RO on xwh, not the other way around.

He writes this out of the blue:
"Please have girls make sure they have everything they need to visit. <> did not have her meds, tooth brush and hair brush and any other things they need including swim suits as we purchased the yet another set last week. Please have <> at <> at 3 pm. We will pick up <> at school as prescribed. We do not wish to be approached in any manor and any approach will be considered an aggressive act and or posturing. The girls will be in <> first until Tuesday , then <>."
~fuckard who doesn't know MANOR from MANNER

Seriously? Two overweight adults, one with road rage who roughs up pets in front of kids the other a dramatic lunatic who as a visitor got kicked out of a hospital - are "afraid" of me? I'm half their size and me against two people? one who I was granted a RO on?
Seriously.
I think he's lost his mind.
I've not even emailed him prior to this, and even when I do it's very businesslike and unemotional. Just stunned and puzzled.

Should I bother defending or crickets? Would a judge or any other person in authority believe them if I did not defend myself by email against that 100% lying crap email?


Posts: 4693 | Registered: Dec 2009
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CHIRP CHIRP


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So now you have it in writing that you're not supposed to approach them while in ANY large house. Cool.

Posts: 1649 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do not respond, especially if you're in a big house


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
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Posts: 9472 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly, I'm jealous. I am hoping for the day that STBX begs me to keep away from him and his OWife. Take it as a gift-- the more NC you get, the better off you are. Don't respond, and make sure that if you are ever around them that you mind your MANORS.

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. But, yeah. Give 'em crickets and enjoy the fact that they're apparently scared of you! I love it! Send me some of that scary mojo, would you?


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It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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stronggirl72
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like trouble in paradise to me.

I vote crickets.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

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Posts: 154 | Registered: Oct 2012
JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So now you have it in writing that you're not supposed to approach them while in ANY large house. Cool.

Idiots. Ignore, no judge would fall for that without any evidence of your "harassment" of them, especially with YOUR RO!


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divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri
Helen of Troy
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Funny  Posted: 7:50 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

at manor comments so much tears are falling down!

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Make sure your state does not have a 'Stand Your Ground Law'. Also known as shoot first ask questions later.

I take this as a warning to stay away. Why put this in writing if he didn't want it read by authorities. And Why does he feel the need to do this?

If this were my X and NW writing this... I would not answer, but I also would not approach. NW used to bring her gun to kid pickup. She told the kids I threatened her. Alluding to the fact that she MIGHT need to defend herself against me.

Be safe and don't approach them... if you do they can say they warned you and you didn't listen. If you are in my state they can shoot you and ask questions later.... if your alive.

Hugs,

K

[This message edited by Kajem at 9:31 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Posts: 4995 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would be strongly inclined to respond with:

"Considering the fact that I have an RO in place against you for <legalreasonitwasgranted>, your concern about me approaching you is unnecessary and unwarranted."


I know that *crickets* is well-advised, but I believe that in certain circumstances...you need to respond if only to cover your ass. His message to you and the circumstances of your situation just smell too much like a 'set-up' of some type.

We do not wish to be approached in any manor
***So now you have it in writing that you're not supposed to approach them while in ANY large house. Cool***

O.M.G. I am going to be laughing for DAYS over this.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7879 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm inclined to agree with Gonna. It sounds like an illiterate attempt to convey what they were told by an attorney. Liked her response too.

Stay away from large homes with servants and you should be ok.


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Posts: 2684 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it was an email where when you reply the original email is sent back, I'd scan the copy of the RO and send THAT back as a response.

You would be covered. Also, if possible have someone with you for the pickups and dropoffs for a while. The whole thing smells fishy.


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damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why the hell does he not have toothbrushes and hair stuff for the girls at his place? Way to make the kids feel unwelcome!


Keep calm and carry on.

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree it's a setup. I highly doubt that someone who doesn't know manor from manner would know to use the word posturing.

Although etiquette is always important, Ms. Post reminds you to always, always mind your manners while in manors.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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