So many innocent people are hurt.
Not to mention animals. My animals are borken hearted. Their mom has moved out becuase she is a cheater.
The best word I always see on this site is not "sick," but "broken." That is not to say these spouses are evil or beyond repair or mentally ill; but to do this, and repeatedly, to the people who love them and whom they profess to love?
This is a better term, I think, but I think they both apply. In my case I think my WW is both sick and broken. It is impossible for anyone like us to fathom. You throw away your entire life, husband, 17 year relationship, 10 year marriage, home, cars, animals, friends, family, self-esteem (in the long run). For what? True love? Give me a break! Everyone with a half a brain knows that relationship is doomed. Even if the WS truly loves the OP. Half of the so called love is the "forbidden fruit" Wait till you wake up next to him one day and he rips a big fart. True love baby! Reality based love is so much better. I have a SUPER LONG road ahead of me. Day 9 only since d-day, but my WW affair was so horrific, I can't see anyway it will work out. I know people say to "Never say never" but I will tell you now that I deserve to be happy and full filled in my life and I don't think that will ever be possible again with my WW. Even if we could R, I would never trust her or feel the same way as I once did and I'm not settling for 2nd best. My life is too valuable to me.