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Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been in IC for two weeks....So far I am finding it to be extremely helpful. Yesterday while I was there my therapist asked a question and when I answered it she showed obvious shock and disapproval. Now I know I haven't done anything positive recently and while I would expect this type of reaction from a regular person I was surprised to see it from a trained professional. Is this something I need to be concerned about?


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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would agree that there is a sort of expectation that a C not be biased. Do you feel comfortable sharing more detail?


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Alyssamd24
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

More detail of what she asked me and what my response was?


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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. You don't have to. I'm just curious what would illicit such a response. Please don't share if you're not comfortable.

[This message edited by BaxtersBFF at 8:18 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Older therapist have seen and heard it all. A newer therapist, not so much. It is great that you are answering open and honestly.

Her shock, you should ask her about her reaction. She needs to know that you see her reaction and how it effected you. It will be a bridge between the two of you to clear the air. If she can't handle your honesty, you need to know because she may not be experienced enough to handle your therapy.

Good luck.


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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree that the C should not have a reaction to what you have said. They are their to help you work through what is happening in your life. Ask you C why they had that expression it may give you some insight.If you C makes you uncomfortable please look for another one.

Good Luck.


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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The IC should not have expressed shock like that... But she is human. Now is your chance to practice clear communication. Instead of wondering and guessing, ask her.

I always asked my IC everything. If he gave me advice about my H, I'd ask if he and his wife did the same. I've even accused him faking a sympathetic response a couple of times.


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