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nolight
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Default  Posted: 4:46 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haha! Me too, for a loong time. Now that I've moved on from him it doesn't have the same power over me now though.

Posts: 516 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
Brokenhearted49
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Default  Posted: 5:00 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm right there with you! she's my daughters Godmother so her name is entwined in our whole family. I never refer to her by name but rather call her "shewhoshallnotbe named" and to others than my kids, "Satan's Mistress". slut and whore just aren't bad enough for a person who is truly EVIL. She knew EXACTLY what she was doing and when my husband was the most vulnerable and alone. My H takes his share of the blame but she was just without any moral compass whatsoever....potentially harming my daughter who trusted her and loved her....the bitch. she manipulated all of us.


Me: 50
Him: 57
Together 26 yrs, married 23 yrs
2 stepsons ( which I've helped raise) 29 & 28 and our son , 21 and daughter 19
OW was daughters Godmother and my Best Friend and has NPD (severe case)
DDay: 5/7/13
Reconciling

Posts: 29 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Medway, MA
confused615
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AP#2 has the same name as my son. I did some investigating and found him on facebook. Not only does he have the same name as my sweet boy,but his dad has the same name as my WH,and his sister has the same name as my little girl.

W.T.F.

The first 24 hours after dday#1,I couldn't look at my son. I knew it was irrational. And,truth be told,I didn't look at anyone,I stayed in my bedroom..the kids went to his parent's for the rest of that week. I didn't treat my son any differently,but I couldn't look at him....and I couldn't say his name.

I told WH that I hated him(WH) for that. That he would choose an AP that had the same name as our son. That I couldn't look at my boy for a few days...because of the damn name.


Well...I got over that shit pretty quick. I adore my son. He is my favorite boy in the entire world,and I will not allow assfucker and dumbass to taint that in ANY way.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7679 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
BaldwinBeauty59
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate OW's name too! For many months, every time I heard it, I would get so angry. It would literally ruin my entire day. Now, I flinch and it only ruins a few hours. Her name is NOT her legal name. It is a name she chose because she hates her real name. The bitch picked my middle name. So that hurts like hell. Her birthday is two days before mine so that has ruined my birthday for me. I will never be able to celebrate my birthday without remembering hers too. I am pissed that my FWH was not only stupid enough to cheat, but also stupid enough to cheat with a whore that uses my middle name and has a birthday close to mine. Those two things are like a branding iron on my heart. I wanted to have my name legally changed and remove my middle name but he wouldn't allow it. He insists that one day, the pain will go away and I will love my middle name again. I seriously have my doubts about that.


Me - BW (53)
Him - WH (56)
OW - skanky whore coworker
Married 33 years
DDay1 8/10/11
DDay2 8/15/11
DDay3 8/28/11
2 grown children
Status - in R

Posts: 978 | Registered: May 2012
SeeThingsNow1
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so glad to see I am not alone in the hatred of a name...My daughter likes a food product at the grocery store that has the name emblazoned on the package...can hardly buy it even now,,,makes me want to throw up a little bit lol

Posts: 126 | Registered: Jan 2013
savvy
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am right there too! Absolutely hate her name with a passion!!!! Thankfully I don't know anyone else with that name. But she is an ex employee so when I had to do end of year paper work, guess whose name I had to keep seeing! I don't just hate the name I hste the person and I'm not a hateful person. But this person I truly hate!


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
savvy
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am right there too! Absolutely hate her name with a passion!!!! Thankfully I don't know anyone else with that name. But she is an ex employee so when I had to do end of year paper work, guess whose name I had to keep seeing! I don't just hate the name I hste the person and I'm not a hateful person. But this person I truly hate!


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate condoms too. I was at a store tonight and there they were taunting me right in my face

I felt that way at first, until I found out that my wife lied about her AP using them. The horror.

Sometimes I hate HER (my WW's) name.


Me (BS)-45, WW-43
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

Posts: 1450 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Knolls, her name is Goat?


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

Posts: 872 | Registered: Sep 2012
StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still flinch a little when I hear the cOW's name -- very common name.

With my fWH I call her "Your Very Special Friend", since, you know, they were just such good friends.


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

Posts: 872 | Registered: Sep 2012
cliffside
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The home wrecking whore my WH was with has a Mickey Mouse tramp stamp (seriously) so I call her "the mouse" .
We also have a problem with a mouse in our house so I can easily say "I want to kill that f'ing mouse" and it has multiple meanings.


Me: BS 39
Him: WH 41
2 Kids
D-Day: 2/3/13
Broke NC 3/14
Very skeptically in R for now...

Posts: 269 | Registered: Mar 2013
hopelessorfull
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate her name too-it's common enough that other people I encounter have that name too-of course she spells it in a trashy way! It was also amusing to me to find out that it is the fourth most popular name for porn actresses! But actually, I call her Blanche, for Blanche DuBois in A Streetcar Named Desire, as she too depends on the kindness of strangers!

Posts: 4 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: USA
gutpunch33
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FIL, BIL and Nephew all have the name....

Posts: 26 | Registered: Aug 2012
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I refer to my WHs AFF collection as the low rent skanks.

And also my real name is one of those mentioned and I'm not a whore I promise.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
MissD
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agreed, the name makes me cringe when I hear it. I hope it makes WH flinch too every time another friend of the family with the same name stops by. Like 2 weeks ago when the good friend stopped by and my DD yells out, "hey mom Marcia's here!" the look on his face, priceless.

Posts: 70 | Registered: May 2013
allfalldown
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love all of these awesome responses...thank you for making me feel a little less crazy. I didn't know that was possible. I want to fist bump all of you


Dday 5-10-13
1 year + EA/PA (still TT)
Me- BW
Him- WH
M- 15 years
2 kiddos
Today's forecast is foggy with a chance of D.

"Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie"


Posts: 58 | Registered: May 2013 | From: hell on earth
knolls
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Knolls, her name is Goat?

Thank you StrongerOne for the chuckle..


I am stronger than the storm.
I take every experience in my life, no matter how horrendous it was, as a learning experience

Posts: 67 | Registered: May 2013
HurtButHopeful?
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Default  Posted: 12:07 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't hate her name. My counselor, whom I respect and appreciate, has OW's name...only she spells it normally. OW spells it stupidly ______with an "i" instead of a "y." I guess I hate how OW spells her name...it looks childish.


Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

Posts: 1716 | Registered: Aug 2009
UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep right with you. She is the name not spoken in our house.

I just lovingly refer to her as "DBC" translation = DrugBag C(guess )


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
LA44
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's common. Karen. Karen. Karen. The name of a beloved Aunt, plus a neighbor, and at least 5 fb friends with the same name. I have NO problem saying their name bc I really like them. They would never hurt me.

We refer to her as AP or the Affair Person. He said her name once and I very quickly said, "don't ever say her name around me again."


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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