The whole "what we have now is far superior" comment throws me. What do we have? we are both genuine. We laugh. We get along. We are intelligent and kind. I bet we make a pretty picture together. We have good table manners. What exactly about that is superior?? We are two decent people with no chemistry?
Yeah, I'm with you on this. It is such an odd comment, and clearly he views your relationship FAR differently than you do. In fact, it isn't a relationship, but a very casual friendship with no real intimacy, emotional or physical, right? He has you at arms length and there is nothing you can do about it.
My fSO declared his undying love for me a few months ago. I loved hearing every word, then he poofed again. You know what I did?
...and walked away. I can't wish him into someone else either. Serious intimacy issues and until he figures himself out...I'm not interested. I refuse. REFUSE. to be in another relationship with a man who does not have himself figured out or isn't capable of being in a full relationship.
Some think this is harsh...but...NEXT.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings