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Happydays
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The lies and planning to cover it up.


BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
Ashland13
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Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Only one is hard to choose!

Well, that first one would be OW!

Then would be the lying/deceipt.

Then would be abandoning his daughter at the same age he lost a parent.

But also things with the mobile phone and behavior/personality issues.

If you have to go to the bathroom and lock the door to text, how can you think it's okay or right to do?


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2187 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anything and everything.


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

Posts: 3691 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Georgia
hobbeskat
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His lack of integrity. He has wanted to be married and start a family all his life. I thought he was a good, moral person, but he isn't. I thought he was strong and he isn't. I thought he would never lie or cheat and that he was honest, but he wasn't.

[This message edited by hobbeskat at 6:49 PM, June 1st (Saturday)]


Posts: 308 | Registered: Mar 2013
fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How very easily he lies to me.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His boats. That's where he "was" when he was off screwing around with multiple OW.


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3377 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Pippy
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When he's late with my Spousal Support.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


Posts: 9587 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The one thing that I will always hate is that he put our family at risk for some internet whores.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1014 | Registered: Mar 2012
doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate him being in the same house as me..

I hate the sound of his heavy breathing when he is moving around in the house..

I hate watching him lick his plate when he is done eating..

[This message edited by doggiediva at 11:26 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)]


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

Posts: 1165 | Registered: Nov 2011
LearningToFly
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Default  Posted: 1:17 AM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How he lies and has done it for so long that he really believes himself.


Me - BS (53) Him-WS(58)
Her OW(55) HighSchoolGirlfriend
Together 30 years Married 28 Kids 24,21,18
D day Feb 26 2013 after 20 months
D day March 4 they met again "to say goodbye"
D day April 2 found out about secret email

Posts: 188 | Registered: Apr 2013
mysticmoons
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Facebook!
Asshole had the audacity to tell me the other night at dinner that he needs to have a Facebook again. I said Hell No!


Me: 39 BGF
Him: 45 WBF
DD#1 02/06/13 Found 6 months of texts between him and my friend
DD#2 03/14/13 Found texting between him and a 24 year old he met at his gig
DD#3 03/17/13 confessed to BJ from bar SLUT
DD#4 03/18/13 Had sex 2X with bar SLUT

Posts: 27 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: mysticmoons
1Faith
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The over the top affection. Like he is trying too hard. I feel smothered at times.

I need space to think and breathe.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1105 | Registered: Apr 2013
bestbecameworst
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His dependence on me.


Me: BS
Together since 1997, married Jan 2010, EA started Feb 2010, PA June 2010
D-day1 Oct 20 2010 / D-day2 Oct 21 2010 and following week / found this site Mar 2011
He didn't do work to reconcile.
DIVORCED in 2014 and HAPPY!

Posts: 595 | Registered: Mar 2011
mj052
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When he jokingly replies "chicks dig me" and smiles. Like he actually expects me to find this funny after finding out about his eight month affair.

It just goes to show how addicted he is to any kind of female attention!! It could be the wicked witch from the wizard of oz or the shamrock cow!!! He is one sick puppy!!!


Trust is a fragile thing- once its lost it's gone forever!!

Posts: 248 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: mj052
mj052
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh- and I forgot to add...

A couple of weeks ago my wayward told me that he spent the night with the mow a couple times (?) When he went out of town on business trips.

The other night in bed while he was sleeping he let one rip! I couldn't help myself from thinking if he ever farted on her!!!! Gross!!


Trust is a fragile thing- once its lost it's gone forever!!

Posts: 248 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: mj052
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When he puts his finger in his ear then rubs it on his pants.

The way I'm sure he lied to me today. WTF. I'm not stupid. Answering "I don't remember" how many goals you got at soccer today when you're fucking obsessed with the game is bullshit. Add to the fact that you weren't flushed at all, yet you *had* to shower just before I got home because you played so hard.


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, June 3rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The arrogance. He though that he was so fucking slck, and that he had me fooled.

Wrong, asshole.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7504 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
SeeThingsNow1
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

as alot of others stated - the lies - the little white ones i see him giving to work people on the phone, the ones I hear him telling to anyone he feels it doesnt matter what he says - I asked him- how do i trust you arent lying to me when you do it right in front of my face and always have a justification of why it is ok you said that?
"I dont do that to you!" uh huh...as I said dear- how am I supposed to tell ....

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