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User Topic: Anniversary
brkn_heartd
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Content  Posted: 2:44 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H affair was at during 26 year of marriage. Tonight, we are going out and celebrating our 30th year anniversary ( a couple of days early). It has been a hard 4 years, there is no denying that. However, I am glad that we have been able to work towards reconciliation. My heart and soul is relaxing, I do not feel like I am constantly on vigil. He has worked very hard to help me heal and help me to feel comfortable. I still have my days, but they are fewer and fewer. I don't think of the A every day anymore.

Tonight, we are dressing up, and having a quiet nice dinner to mark our 30 years. It has been 30 years of love, pain, fear and hope. I am glad that we have continued to work on our marriage.

For those starting through the path of reconciliation, it is not easy, and both have to be vested into the success of your marriage. However, the pain does ease and life does start to return back to normal. I am not totally healed today, but I am so much more healed than I was even last year. Just know, there is hope.


Me-50 BS
Him 57-WS
Married 30 yrs, together 33
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1529 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a beautiful post!

Wishing you a happy anniversary .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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fallingquickly
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Member # 36599
Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy anniversary. I am very happy for you.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
Shattered-Heart
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's lovely.
I'm glad it's working out well for you guys. I'd give my eye teeth to not think of it every day anymore...


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 180 | Registered: May 2011
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, June 1st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
HardenMyHeart
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Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 2:33 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post and Happy Anniversary.


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 29 years, Happily Reconciled

Posts: 5622 | Registered: Aug 2007
Undone1
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You give me hope!


Undone1
Married 10+ years to my high school sweetheart
DDAY 10/27/12
Me 55
WH 55
Blended Family: 25, 21, and 20
Married 10 years
"The Universe Unfolds as it Should"

Posts: 301 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Missouri
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, June 2nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone. We had a very nice evening last night.

Shattered heart, it was actually about 2 months ago that I noticed a day had passed that I had not thought of it. Now, I may have 2-3. I never thought I would get through a day without thinking about it either.

Undone-there is hope, time heals so much (as well as a lot of hard work! )


Me-50 BS
Him 57-WS
Married 30 yrs, together 33
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1529 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Shattered-Heart
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Member # 32165
Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope to get there to where I don't have it intrude into my daily thoughts like you, really the sooner the better but I'm realistic and know it's not happening anytime soon. Still, gives me hope it might just happen eventually...
Glad you had a lovely anniversary, wonder what you guys did? I'm still at a loss for anniversary and bday stuff. Think I'll create a new thread about that actually.


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 180 | Registered: May 2011
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice!
Happy Anniversary!


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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