I am currently debating on whether to try to get the kids to visit their grandmother this summer for a couple of days while I am near her town.
He told his mom what was going on. She said that because he hadn't slept with any of the women involved, any problems we were having were due to my "issues and insecurities" and that it was likely me making a big deal over nothing.
Yeah, not fun. Not a surprise they weren't in the loop during DD#2.
[This message edited by Reality at 12:23 PM, June 3rd (Monday)]
They can't help me heal so I decided to limit who did know but I wasn't going to hide his lie.
A few family members know (sister and sister in law), two good friends one of which treats me very differently now. Judging me, I feel, like I am always in the wrong. Very tense.
Simply put the ugliness of the affair is something people don't want to be too close to them. If it can happen to you then yee gads, perhaps it can happen to them as well. Too close for comfort.
I recommend you reaching out to your IL and simply state " I am sorry this has happened, I know it is hard on everyone, however, I do value the relationship I have with you. I know your daughter will come first but I hope to remain in your life regardless of the outcome".
It sucks all around. It just does. So sorry.
Looks like their little princess got to them. Of course they are going to support her. But to say you should have seen it coming and that YOU need to take care of a huss? Really?
If you are going to divorce her, then maybe you might want to stand up to them if they are talking s**t about you and tell them that cheating husses like their daughter don't deserve to be taken care of, and she lost a good man.
I told my x-father-in-law straight up that I like him alot, but his daughter is a cheating skank when he came to see me. He didn't argue with me because he knew it was true. All he said is "ya, just like her mother, but she is my daughter and I have to support her".
I told him I wouldn't expect anything less.
[This message edited by nofool4u at 3:43 PM, June 7th (Friday)]
Funny, all the family friends ended up sticking by her too. We move in three weeks. All family friends moms are throwing her a farewell party. Nothing for me and the kids eh? Pretty sure I was at their kids birthdays, games, and graduations too. Meh.
I can't help but resent this a bit, I mean..would they still be throwing her a party if it had been their husbands that she was sleeping with?
My x-MIL blamed me as well. And when me and her had words I told her, "Awww, too bad. Now your daughter won't have a retirement to fall back on when she is older. Hope she is prepared to work until she is 75 or 80."
Oh that pissed x-MIL off