I looked it up on Amazon and noticed several 1 star reviews mentioning that the author essentially blames both spouses for the affair and expects the BS to assume responsibility/blame for the affair along with the WS. Is this the case with this particular book? Would you personally recommend it or not?
I own my share of the problems in our marriage, but I will not take responsibility for my husband's decision to have an affair, and I have no interest in reading a book whose author encourages me to accept blame. I am looking for something that will help both of us understand the other's unique position... So is this book it, or are there better options out there?
I'm new on SI, so I apologize if this topic has already been discussed. Thanks in advance for your help!
The two most recommended books I see here are Not Just Friends (Shirley Glass) and How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair (Linda MacDonald). I found both useful.
And welcome to SI!!!
ETA: Just saw you are looking for a book that examines both sides of the infidelity - Not Just Friends would by a good starting point for that.
[This message edited by Lyonesse at 11:25 AM, June 3rd (Monday)]