I thought this was all done and I had walked away?
Nope she sends me a fb msg do I have fotos off egg donar she I could scan for her. No. I have one that one of my aunts gave me and I dont have a computer to scan.
Could I take a photo and text her? DidI see the fb msg about egg donars death?
I can go two ways. Text the photo and ignor the second comment or I can politely explain:
Yes, I saw the fb msg. Since she and I have not spoken in 20 plus yrs I chose to stay quiet
I understand and respect you and your kids think she was wonderful, but as a parent she was horrendous.
She quit being a parent when I was 9 or 10. The older I got the more responsibilities I had.
She stole my babysitting money so she and your husband could eat; so she had nodoz and cigarettes. My sister and I had to steal or rely on friends to
Age 14 she fed us hotdogs if we ate at all...but she would cook her cheater boyfriend steak
Age 15/16 I paid utilities and food. She paid rent
Age 18 she dumped us in the hastings hotel in hollywood and left me to support two younger siblings while she went to live with a man
About age 16 I was also expected to play mommy to her as well as my siblings.
She was very needy.
I get she had a bad childhood. As an adult, a person has control over how they live their lives. I know I do, and I have worked hard to change what I call bad habits.
Even as a parent we make mistakes. You apologise. Try to make ammends. My dad did just that. With my dad, as an adult child, I knew he loved me. I never felt that from egg donar.she never told me she loved me. IN fact she told sis and I she never wanted girls qnd if it werent for your husband she would have left.
I know kids are a challange. They can be a pain in the tush. Having my own kids made it worse in my view toward egg donar. I look at my short people with wonder and amazement. I may threaten to sell them on ebay when they act up or do something boneheaded but my kids totally rock my world.
Yes, I saw the post. I had chosen to stay quiet out of respect for you and your kids. The only thing I can say is Im sorry for your loss and a I hope she didnt suffer
What do you think? Which way should I go. I honestly want to point out the fact she went crickets when my dad died. He was the better person of the two. He got he made mistakes. He apologised and explained. Egg donar was always needy; always me me me. Why not show him equal consideration?