Topic: My (younger) brother had a stroke
|Sad in AZ|
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| Posted: 12:00 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Ugh. He's been a very angry man for the past, maybe, 6 years. He was drinking excessively. He woke up two Sundays ago unable to see. The stroke has affected only his eyes, but it's to the point that he has only pinpoint tunnel vision (if he tries to read, he can see the word, but when he moves on to the next one, he can no longer see the first one.)
Mom is still slowly slipping into dementia; she is taking medication for it, but at night, she gets pretty wonky. She keeps talking about the kids never telling her where they're going and not coming home for dinner (she lives alone... )
My sister-in-law has been a doll--she does all kinds of things for mom including cleaning up her yard, and mom hates her. Now, SIL is going to have to devote more time to my brother, so mom's situation is going to have to change.
I almost have her convinced to move into a senior facility, but she's very paranoid (this is her normal, nondementia state) and while she wants friends, she doesn't know how to be one (never has.) She disclosed that she's come into 'a lot' of money; before I moved to TX, we moved all of her accounts from NY to AZ, so I don't know where this one came from, but she claims it's an investment account. When I asked her how much, she said, "I'm not telling you!"
Some good thoughts would be appreciated.
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Posts: 20281 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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| Posted: 12:02 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
(((Sad))) Sounds like alot is going on in your family...good thoughts to you and all involved
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| Posted: 12:06 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'll keep your family in my prayers..
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| Posted: 12:07 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Argh. What a plateful.
Prayers for your family.
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| Posted: 12:11 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.
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| Posted: 12:13 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Damn Sad, sounds like a lot going on. Sending good thoughts your way.
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| Posted: 12:14 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
I feel for you, I really do. My grandmother had alzheimer's. It's hard to see someone going through that. I went over to help her one day, she walked from the kitchen to the living room then back to the kitchen and didn't know who I was.
An assisted living facility would be a good idea for your mom. They have people that can go in and check on her form time to time and it's not quite a nursing home.
Is your brother getting some kind of treatment for his stroke? How old is you brother, if you don't mind my asking.
Sending (((HUGS))) and positive thoughts your way.
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| Posted: 12:16 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Hugs and positive thought for you and your family.
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Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
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| Posted: 12:18 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm sorry for all you and your family are going through. Sending you strength and good thoughts.
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| Posted: 12:22 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
You got it!
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Posts: 15413 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
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| Posted: 12:23 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Sending lots of good thoughts your way.
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| Posted: 12:25 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry. Sending good thoughts your way.
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| Posted: 12:39 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Sad, I'm very sorry to hear that news.
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| Posted: 12:43 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
((((Sad)))) Holding you and your family in my thoughts. Hang in there, honey.
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| Posted: 12:49 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
That's a lot to handle. How are you taking it all?
I hold you in my thoughts while you deal with all this.
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| Posted: 1:36 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
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| Posted: 1:39 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
This above all: to thine ownself be true,
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| Posted: 2:57 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Sending you strength, Sad.
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| Posted: 3:54 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
I hate to hear that about your brother. Sounds like your sister in law will be real busy with him.
Your mother sounds like she "Sundowns". For some odd reason most dementia affected people tend to start getting worse with their symptoms at evening/night. In my opinion, I think a nursing home would be in her best interested but then again, it does depend on how far gone she is in the disease process.
IF she tends to get easily distracted, cannot hold her concentration for long periods of time, falls a lot, basically just not able to take care of her daily needs, these are things that really have to be looked at. Is she able to meet her basic needs without the assist of someone?
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Posts: 423 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: AL
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| Posted: 4:27 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Wishing you only positive things. I'm sorry you are dealing with so much.
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