Topic: My (younger) brother had a stroke
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| Posted: 8:03 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
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Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 9:04 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
Just back from spending a long day with mom; I took her on a road trip. She does indeed seem to have Sundown syndrome. She wasn't making a lot of sense on the way home.
My brother hadn't spoken to me since election day-we're on opposite sides of the fence but I don't get into any political discussions with him. He just chose to spit venom that night, and I decided to get off the crazy train. Now I have to deal with him in order to get my mom's affairs in order (he's on all of her bank accounts), and it's not going to work because he needs to spend his energy on healing. I'm not sure how to proceed. This is going to be interesting.
My brother will be 54 tomorrow. He's been pushing his family away with his drinking over the past few years; my niece and nephews don't seem to be too concerned about him. I guess he's made his bed...it's tough because we used to be very close.
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Posts: 20288 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 36134
| Posted: 9:20 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
I am sorry you're dealing with all of this. I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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| Posted: 9:36 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
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| Posted: 9:47 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
..family drama can sometimes push the limits.. sorry you are dealing with these challenges (mom and bro)
..sending you prayers and strength.
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Posts: 4129 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
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| Posted: 11:48 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013|
very sorry to hear. sending lots of positive thoughts your way. and warm hugs too of course.
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Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Member # 27196
| Posted: 8:22 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry Sad. You are dealing with alot, and it most probably will get worse before it gets better.
You may want to go ahead and get yourself added to all her accounts, and discuss with your brother about changing your Mom's POA and executor to yourself if he is currently the primary.
I dealt with all this same stuff for many many years, and it's not easy. Make sure you see YOUR doctor on a regular basis, and mention both your Mom's and your brother's conditions.
Stay strong sweetie.
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Posts: 7102 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
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| Posted: 10:29 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry for all you're going through..I can't imagine having to deal with so much.
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Posts: 3245 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
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| Posted: 11:02 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
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Posts: 3452 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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| Posted: 2:23 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
((( sad )))
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