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User Topic: can postings here be subpoenoed in court as evidence to a crime?
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..wondering if one's posts here can be used in a court of law to determine motive, pre-meditation to a crime?

..smy


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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll leave that to the legal experts but I'd imagine anything you post online could be used to at least show a state of mind or something along those lines. You hear about facebook being used for that all the time.

Just a guess though.


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Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, of course. Anything put here (or anywhere on the 'net) that can be traced to you, can be used in court against you.

I saw a title to a thread in 'investigation forum' that was asking how to hack a FB acct password...yep...illegal.


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Bikingguy
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have wondered the same thing. Therefore I have tried to be very vague about specifics for OM. Now if I do somehow happy to run over him in my truck I am in for a world of problems


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Actually, since this is an annonymous forum, your posts would have to be subpoenaed to prove it was actually *you* posting.

I know in some cases, STBX's have printed out posts from here for their attorney to review, but to my knowledge (and SI has never been subpoenaed) posts have never been used in a court of law.

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 10:32 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)]


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KeepCalm_CarryOn
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was going to say what DS said, they would have to somehow prove it was *you* posting and not someone using your username or something like that. It would be rather difficult.


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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Difficult and costly.

We have been threatened many times with STBX's emailing saying they were going to sue SI and take their spouse to the cleaners. Never happens tho, because of the amount of time and money it would cost them on their end.


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Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Actually, since this is an annonymous forum, your posts would have to be subpoenaed to prove it was actually *you* posting.
I know in some cases, STBX's have printed out posts from here for their attorney to review, but to my knowledge (and SI has never been subpoenaed) posts have never been used in a court of law.

That is true, but if someone chose to take it that far, it isn't difficult to get the subpoena for the persons info and IP info.

Gaining true anonymity on the internet isn't that easy and using screennames doesn't give much protection if lawyers and the authorities get involved.


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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

See above


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Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Costly, yes. Difficult, not at all.


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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, that's good to know since we've only been doing this for 11 years

I didn't say it couldn't happen, I said it *hasn't* happend.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Difficult and costly.

Just in case, I'll keep the details of the "chocolate ice cream with syrup incident" to myself, thank you .


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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred...

We have ways of making you talk


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am also thinking, possibly, they could get a forensic IT guy to go through your computer completely and find everything that you personally have posted. Not being at all computer savvy, I really don't know if that is possible.


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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SM...

I would think thats a very solid option for someone that is willing to spend time and money to get the goods on what was posted here.


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Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, that's good to know since we've only been doing this for 11 years
I didn't say it couldn't happen, I said it *hasn't* happend.

I didn't dispute that fact and I doubt 95% of attorneys would suggest going that route, but it isn't difficult in the least. It is costly, but it is not difficult.

SM - you're right a forensic IT specialist can find a lot on the computer itself.


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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gosh I wonder why that's never happened?

"Your honor, I can prove that I Think I Can was very angry and hurt that her husband cheated on her with a stupid slut! I can prove that she consulted with a lawyer to learn her rights about custody, alimony, and retirement funds!"

Oh wait. Never mind.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think there's a valid concern if someone has learned here about how to install keyloggers or use VAR technology. In some states or instances that would be illegal. Then to use that illegally-obtained info might be an additional illegal act.

Or something like that.

But still, there's a whole mess of bother & time & lawyer fees to prove... what?


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"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Come and get me, copper.


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