Topic: Hiring a PI to Verify A is Really Over
Member # 39433
| Posted: 5:07 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
All my fiance's behavior says he's in R with me but since we are long distance I want to make sure that he's being truthful. I've decided to hire a PI because my only other option is to call the OW and I don't want to give her anymore energy.
Has anyone else verified reconciliation or hired a PI?
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 30727
| Posted: 5:10 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
I didn't, but I am always interested in the stories of the people who did. Whenever the topic is brought up here the vast majority say that they were pleased with the information and said it is money well spent. Good luck!
[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 5:10 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)]
"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."
Posts: 1233 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Member # 30314
| Posted: 5:23 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
yes, but i hired one to verify nothing was going on. I did it up good (with a VAR is his car too) because it was the last time I was going to spy.
The PI called me and said he was in a park. I drove there and caught him on top of her.
they say if you hire one there is a 95% chance they'll find something - that is how well our gut works or something.
It was the worst day of my life.
And the VAR recording told me they had been together earlier in the day and had made out in his car, which he denied.
it was money well spent. Also, the PI took pics and OW is VERY worried about those. Actions have consequences...
[This message edited by rachelc at 5:24 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)]
his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...
Posts: 4786 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 35758
| Posted: 7:25 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
I think if you have the money to do it, I would. Especially considering that you are not married yet.
I would want verification before I pulled the M trigger, but that is just me.
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
Posts: 1452 | Registered: Jun 2012
Member # 37154
| Posted: 7:38 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
I hired one and he found nothing, which was great. He also set up our polygraph.
I gave his name to a friend and he got pictures for her that saved her thousands in alimony.
He also said 95% of the time the spouse was guilty. I was glad mine was the exception.
Posts: 1728 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 21183
| Posted: 10:10 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013|
I hired a reputable, honest PI after D-Day; and it was the best money I ever spent.
If you can afford to pay a PI for verification - I'd suggest you go for it!
Me BS 59
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.
Posts: 6114 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
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