One more question, should I take out all the money in our shared accounts?
and have you seen a lawyer yet?????
No time to mess around here and get to the Dr. check for stds....
There is no reason to wait for him to give you permission.
He is an idiot!
[This message edited by 2yrs+recovering at 10:40 AM, June 21st (Friday)]
You can do this!
I am really not the type of person to fight nasty in the court, anyways I had a good talk with H, he is determined to marry that Philipine girl, so we are ready to settle everything, H agreed and shows some care at this point, D is our decision unfortunately. I will keep u all posted. Thanks for reading.
[This message edited by Blackhair at 1:21 AM, June 24th (Monday)]
I hate it mostly for your kids because you can move on & hopefully find a man who will appreciate what you have to offer in a genuine relationship. I truly believe that what goes around comes around. He will wake up one day all alone & financially ruined & maybe then will realize how incredibly stupid he was.
Lots of stuff can slip by: Health insurance for you and the kids? A portion of his retirement for the length of the M, CS, college in the future? Visitation issues, custody? What happens if one of you dies? And with properties - loads of complications as your names are co-mingled and so is your credit! If he is in a rush - take advantage of that!! Get yourself untangled from him financially! But make sure to cross those T's and dot your I's.
Most atty's say you can take 1/2 of what is in the bank. And that is typcial. I was a SAHM, I took it all. When he left he took over a month worth of paychecks with him... and there wasn't going to anywhere enough income to pay our mutual bills for a while if I didn't.
Amazed to realize how strong I can be, or when you realize he is an AxxHxx,
You are such a nice person you didn't even write out that he was an asshole. So I will say it for you.
He is an asshole. Even bolded it for you
Hugs to you and your babies. Take care of yourself. You have been given some solid advice.
PS: Your H would need to win YOU back. Not the other way around.
Your husband doesn't know what he is getting himself into. He'll end up poor, or worse jailed, if the husband of his paramour is still alive. If he pursue marrying her, he is a partner to a bigamous marriage, punishable by law; if he will live with her, it's going to be an adulterous relationship, also punishable under Philippine law..
So... Any Avenue he pursue is going to be very very expensive for him... So... Protect what is due you and your children..
God bless you, Blackhair
[This message edited by ConfusedAbudhabi at 1:02 AM, June 25th (Tuesday)]
[This message edited by ConfusedAbudhabi at 1:03 AM, June 25th (Tuesday)]
He wants to give me a bit more assets and share custody no CS to pay, he even suggested we call still live on the upper level while he and that girl lives in lower level, I said no way.
How totally delusional, FTG, go after everything you can get. You can be sure Ms. Phillipine will for her and her son.
I can not wait to get over with it, but it takes time to get our finance number calculated out, custody, etc.
He is so dump not realizing what a mess he is going getting himself into. So he is super nice lately, but who cares, D is my decision regardless.
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
After few months in hell, even a false R, I did tried so hard to give WS a chance to R, but WS never truly be remorseful, finally I had enough. So I filed. He was so scared and did I not fight back. Today we finally signed the separation agreement. Overall it is still kind of " civil"! I am proud of myself, kept my dignity.
I was so relieved but Extremely SAD, the 10 years marriage is officially over that quick!
Also my twin boys, the older one started to walk the first time today, it is saddest thing to think their life is going to change a bit time because of this.
I felt SAD, will never understand why someone can be capable hurt another person he has loved! I do not know how I am going to trust anyone again.
I know it will get better, but right now I am at the rock bottom, it is HARD/SAD!
I read your story months ago, and am so glad you gave us an update. Have you been doing the 180? I think some people believe it's done to scare the WH into seeing what they are losing. The reality is it's for the BS. You start to see what an incredible woman you really are, and begin to understand how you deserve to be happy... alone, or with a man worthy of your attention and love.
Please continue to let us know how you are doing. Stay strong, and know you aren't alone in all of this.
Please accept the biggest cyber ((hugs)) I can offer
My day was ok this morning till I heard this I felt apart again, the shit is hard, when I am going to be strong enough not let him "torture" me any more.
I don't know how I am going to have my first Christmas by myself with the kids.....
Oh Gosh.... The pain never ends.....
If your daughter has a passport, I would get a safe deposit box and lock it away from him. If she does NOT have a passport, I would get one--then lock it up.
It may seem counter-intuitive to get a passport if you don't condone the travel. But if YOU get the passport, then HE won't be able to get one and take her out of the country against your wishes.
Either way, the passport needs to be locked up somewhere he cannot access it.
The man has lost his mind. He's fallen for a scam---I mean, this one is as obvious as the emails from Nigerian princes (and as dangerous; men have gone to the Philippines for "true love," only to be murdered)---and really, if he now spends Christmas without his children, then that's what we call natural consequences.
If he wants to be an idiot, fine. Don't let him involve your children in any way.
You might never see them again.
[This message edited by PhoenixRisen at 9:22 PM, October 18th (Friday)]