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User Topic: I feel like I can't breathe....
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to validate your feelings. Five weeks is too long, under your circumstances. I know. I am in your same situation. Five weeks is too long for the kids, never mind you.

What is his plan for caring for the kids while he's working? This is critical. Does he have a good plan? Can he afford it, financially? How do your kids feel about being with him for five weeks? Have you talked to your attorney to see if you have any options available, at all?

On another note, your kids are going to wear him out. After the first two weeks, you might ask him if it would be alright with him if you took the kids for the weekends. He'll want the break by then.

Also, I'd start working on getting that custody arrangement changed. This won't help for this summer, but could help going forward. I have primary physical custody, like you do, and my xWW gets the kids for 10 days during the summer. That's more like it.

If all else fails and you really don't get to see them for five weeks, I would arrange for nightly SKYPE sessions with them. That would be something.

But, going forward, I think you're going to have to find a way to get the five weeks reduced to two. Five weeks is too long now, and it will always be too long.

I'm sorry for your situation. Good luck.

Me: BH 58.........Her: WW 45
DD: 8..........DS: 5
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with both sides, specifically what phmh and nomistake had to say.

In my own experience, it has greatly helped with life balance to try to enjoy the times they are with their dad. I have found that yoga greatly reduces stress, not to mention what has done to my physique; I find it extremely rewarding during the most stressful times.

My children do Skype with their dad almost every night, and it helps both sides a lot. I do think there is a lot of unknowns that nomistake brought up which must be addressed, and also think that it would greatly benefit from an attorneys advice.

You are not alone.


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."


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