Nature girl, it's amazing but I recently had enough with my XH and his family. I thought MIL didnt believe me about the A and all the issues.
Lesson learned: What do you KNOW vs What do you THINK?
I went on fb and messaged his sister last week. No response. So I fb his mother. Told her a bunch of the crap he's pulling out here. I felt it necesary because of the children AND told her he was having an affair was why we broke up. (I had tried to tell her all this last summer, but it overwhelmed her) and Xh told me to leave his family alone.
So, anyway she sent me back a fb message. She said she busted him on the affair some time back.(Not during it, but after I called her last summer). She said she did everything she could, but that he was a 50 year old man and she can't hold his hand any longer. She said she was sorry it all happened. Then she told me to move on.......
So, it was nothing like what I had thought (that she was in la la land).
Now, the other sister freaked out on me via fb. So I calmly told her ALOT of stuff. Porn, sex chat rooms, setting me up to be friends w OW, money she thought I borrowed and never paid back, I GAVE XH the money---did he never pay the mom back?,,,,etc etc.Then, the oldest sister fb me nicely and told me the mom is pretty old and weak. We ended up ok on the messaging. I told her I want her family fb my children in case something happens to me.
It really helped me find out what they were told, but now they really never want anything to do w me since I totally stressed out their mom....
I fell the pain about the $$$ stuff, too. I stayed home and he gets to make $$, have a gf, travel,etc.
I got the house (good).
I THINK you can go back to school or get on unemployment as a displaced hommemaker.