No apologies needed and I do appreciate the blunt advice. I'm not wanting my GF to be my therapist, I just wanted to keep here in the loop about what has been going on. I have more than learned my lesson from this though that it HAS to be as purely business relationship with the ex. While I have no desire or intention to R being friendly doesn't make that clear.
I do have some work to do on myself though because the xWW shouldn't be able to get under my skin the way she does. I don't have a current IC but have started the process at work (they pay 100% if notifies in advance), and have started looking for a new one in my area. I think the timing of everything just really caught me off guard and I wasn't prepared for it. It won't go this way again, I just want to focus on building the future I have in mind,being the father I need to be and a boyfriend to be proud of.