Ok, next day Wednesday. That day was not that eventful. Nothing new happened. Same old same old. Except my children were just atrocious! They have developed this hate for me this week that is just crushing me. I don't even know what to do with the disrespect.
Thursday. My two oldest boys(I have 4) get into this awesome camp from a waiting list. SUPER! Something great in this crappy week. I tell the ex, I say the kids are so stoked, HE says no. He's getting married that week.
So this "lady" I have never met , my kids have never met. BUT ...I already know about her. She met my ex way back in the day when he was in jail for murder. She met him WHILE he was in jail!! She was into the whole white power thing. Now she has 4 kids also, and is a tattoo artist or something and lives in the US...we are in Canada. First of all, BARF, my kids are going to grow up with this lady?! And secondly, how screwed up IS HE?!
Yesterday was Friday. I bought a new vehicle. YAY. And then my friend called me and told me that my kids had told her that their dad said it was ok to watch sex videos. HE HAD KNOWN THEY WERE WATCHING IT! And even my three year old had watched the video! My 5 year old had also told her that he was going to watch "ladies dance on poles"!
I asked my lawyer about having his time limited or restricted in some ways and she said it's probably not going to happen. And I wonder....does this lawyer completely suck? haha...but seriously, I want my old lawyer back. The one who had an ounce of experience and moxie.
Ok so. It's Saturday. It's got to end with a bang right??
[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:00 AM, June 8th (Saturday)]
Please call CPS yourself.
[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:43 AM, June 8th (Saturday)]
You're a strong and brave women. You and your kids are in my prayers.
❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣
Do not allow this to go on another minute unchallenged. If you do then you'll be considered complicit. Take action. Contact a counselor, contact your pediatrician. Take action now.
So , another question. How do I bring this subject up with my ex? I always keep copies of our text conversations(it's the only way we communicate) and I want to say the right thing. I of course would say something more eloquent but to the effect of "what the hell? who does that? and those are our kids you are screwing up, please man up and be a FATHER". But I also know that no matter what I say he will deny it all and it will fall on deaf ears. So this is pretty much just for record that yes I was very concerned and I did bring it up with him.
IF you do think you should say something to him on your own, please be sure to have a VAR in your hand so you can record his responses to you.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.