I trust your mention of an RA is just venting. He sounds so stuck in Victim that an RA would just confirm his position and make him that much more unwilling to help you heal.
Sorry he's being such a jerk. You're not really a psycho...you're just M to one.
A cheating spouse who doesn't know the difference between regret and remorse.
A cheating spouse who just wants to rugsweep and treats you like YOU have a problem, cuz you just can't get over it.
A cheating spouse who makes promises he never intends to keep, just to get you off his back.
A cheating spouse who disappoints you month after month after dreary dreary month, all the while pretending things are good.
"I would've rather been raped 1,000 times than have lived through one December 2010!!!"
I recently talked to my IC (the same IC I had for my rape counseling) about that statement, and I still hold true to that statement.
I didn't love my rapist, didn't trust my rapist. My rapist never committed to me, made promises to me, let me dream a lifetime with him.
December 2010 crashed so much of my life, and it's never been the same....I've never been the same.... The PTSD is far worse that I'm dealing with now from his SA than the PTSD that was related to the rape.
Dude needs a check-up from the neck-up if he seriously thinks the two situations compare in any way, shape or form.
I call manipulator. Not even a master - just your garden variety kind.
This must make you so mad and sad.