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User Topic: I'm hesitant to post this.
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sweetie, you really need to see a doctor immediately. Please do not wait until Monday. You need to go to the ER now. Head injuries are emergencies.

Unless your doctor friend performed a CAT scan, there is no way to know that you are OK. The scan is needed to determine if there's bleeding or swelling in the brain.

Symptoms of a brain injury include:

•Unconsciousness
•Inability to remember the cause of the injury or events that occurred immediately before or up to 24 hours after

The effects can be quite serious, including death.

Please go to the emergency room, or call 911.


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1780 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 2:33 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have extensive experience in neuro trauma..I have to agree with everybody that posted before me..Go get evaluated...HEALTH COMES FIRST....911 The lasting effects of many head injuries can be eliminated or mitigated if treated well and soon enough.....You may feel that you are functioning normally, but in the long run even a mild head injury that is left untreated can wreak havoc with your life.. An unusual amount of irritability and forgetfulness, are two the of the problems that you can be left with for an indefinite amount of time with mild head injuries..If the treatment you get can't eliminate those problems, you can still get help and support with adapting to them.. BTW I agree with TX wife mom...

[This message edited by doggiediva at 2:48 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

Posts: 1136 | Registered: Nov 2011
mel88
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Default  Posted: 2:34 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unless you are conditioned to his negligence/abuse.

Not really, he's a nice guy in general. I've certainly been conditioned to past abuse and negligence. Hence, the therapy.

What did you eat or drink before you fell?

Nothing. I stopped really eating a few days ago. Sorry if that sounds strange.

I must have a head injury since I'm about 30 seconds behind you all! Paying attention to every word you say, even if I don't respond directly.

[This message edited by mel88 at 2:40 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


"tous dans le jeu, yo. tous dans le jeu."
-Omar

Posts: 593 | Registered: Mar 2008
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 2:47 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel

I have been following this. You are not capable of caring for yourself at present.

People keep saying this but I don't think you are hearing.

Honey you have been injured seriously. You are not well. You can't rely on yourself to make the right decision.

You MUST go to an ER and get checked. They will do a scan.

I promise that if you do we will get off your back but we will keep nagging you until you go.

Please go. If not for yourself for us. We are all worried sick and need you to help us stop feeling this way.

Go to the ER now. If you can't get there yourself, call for an ambulance. Tell them what happened. They will come and get you.

BIG HUGS

Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2738 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
stillhere09
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Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can understand you not being comfortable with being in a hospital unless it's necessary, but it's more comfortable than wondering if you will be dead or alive tomorrow.

Tell you what - Why not let a professional on the phone decide? Call your local hospital and ask to speak to a doctor or call 911. Ask them if you need emergency treatment. Let a professional decide. It's only a phone call. Does that make sense?

Then please let us know you called as soon as you've talked to them. Thanks.

[This message edited by stillhere09 at 2:52 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M


Posts: 3020 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:09 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im very worried about you.


What was so special about this diner? Who did he meet?

Honestly, it sounds like he knocked you out somehow(does your head even hurt?), and went to meet an OW.

He left you unconscious for TEN hours?? Where was he for 10 hours? Was he home,and ignoring you as you laid unconscious? Or was he at this "diner" the entire time?

Where is he now?

You need to call someone. You need to get the Hell out of there. You are in danger. This man isn't safe. YOU ARE IN DANGER. Even *if* he didn't knock you out,the fact that he left you unconscious..for TEN hours is reason enough to believe this man doesn't give two shits about you or your safety.

PLEASE call your mom,or a friend,and get out of there right away.

((((mel88))))

[This message edited by confused615 at 3:09 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
mel88
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Default  Posted: 3:09 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just called and they said I have to come in to the hospital or call 911.


"tous dans le jeu, yo. tous dans le jeu."
-Omar

Posts: 593 | Registered: Mar 2008
confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call 911. Do it NOW.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
mel88
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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What was so special about this diner? Who did he meet?

He said he just got in the car and wandered. He went on his own.

does your head even hurt?

a little.


Where was he for 10 hours? Was he home,and ignoring you as you laid unconscious? Or was he at this "diner" the entire time?

He left at around midnight and just kept driving.

Where is he now?

In bed.


"tous dans le jeu, yo. tous dans le jeu."
-Omar

Posts: 593 | Registered: Mar 2008
mel88
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Default  Posted: 3:19 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all the support. I'm not going to call ER until tomorrow.


"tous dans le jeu, yo. tous dans le jeu."
-Omar

Posts: 593 | Registered: Mar 2008
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 3:21 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK, please call 911 now. I promise we'll all be here when you get back to talk about the rest of this.

Please do this, mel! Every person who has read this is very concerned for you.


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1780 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:26 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You said he went on and on for an hour saying he didn't hit you. Did you accuse him of hitting you? It sounds as if he was trying to convince you. What were you doing when you tripped?

Why did you stop eating a few days ago?

This all happened on Tuesday. How has he been treating you since then?

[This message edited by confused615 at 3:28 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:49 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((mel))))

I don't understand why you won't go to ER until tomorrow, the phone person you talked to said to call 911. 911 is for something that's an emergency NOW. That means in the professional's opinion, you have an emergency NOW.

The whole situation there sounds so bizarre - my WH wouldn't leave me unconscious for 10 SECONDS, and we're SEPARATED!!!!! I don't know what's going on there, but it is most definitely NOT a safe place for you.

Please get help. RIGHT NOW.

((((mel))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 5:26 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi again honey.

Call 911. Tell them you called the hospital and they said to call 911. Do it please. Do it now.

Just pick up the phone and dial. Tell them you fell, hit your head and were unconscious for 10 hours. Just do it. They will come.

HUGS

Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2738 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel honey I hope you went to ER.

First thing you need is your head looked at. Out for 10 hours is serious.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3185 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you called the hospital.

When you're back with us, we'll help with the other stuff.

Thinking of you this morning....(((mel)))

[This message edited by solus sto at 7:39 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8335 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel, something happened and you're reluctant to go to the hospital because you don't want to tell, right? I don't believe that he didn't hurt you. Based on your story....I think that he did. And then he didn't give a shit about what happened to you.

You said that you hadn't been drinking or doing drugs at the time of the fall, but was he?

Put your own health first. Let him suffer the consequences of his actions.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7705 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm gonna go there.

Do you think he left you for ten hours alone unconscious on the floor because when he returned you might not be alive.

You need to get to the hospital pronto.

Pack your bags and leave for your sister's house or a friends.

Divorce if your married or breakup with him.

No one with compassion, empathy, or a good heart will watch anyone including a stranger trip and fall and not render aide to them.

This thing (he is not human) tells you to your face that he can't deal with your issues and left you to basically to die alone on the floor.

He is evil period.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

Posts: 1570 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
TXwifemom
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is something very strange about all of this...... Could this be a hoax?

Normal people don't post this sort f thing. And, if you're so confused you don't know to go to the ER, how can you post here?

I think we are going on a snipe hunt, guys......


Posts: 231 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: texas
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TXwifemom

I had the same thought honey. But... you just never know and it's not worth the risk.

I think we have all learnt that the world is not what we thought it was so who knows?


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2738 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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