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User Topic: I'm hesitant to post this.
dameia
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm going to guess this isn't a hoax, because this person has been a member for so long, and has a significant amount of posts. Hope I'm not wrong...

That being said, mel, please listen to everyone and get yourself to a hospital immediately.

I do have a couple of questions though...

1. Do you have a history of blackouts or seizures?

2. Is it normal for you to stop eating?

3. Does your SO physically abuse you?

These are just a few things running through my mind. The gist I get from your posts, talking about how he can't deal with your "issues" from your past, is that you had some major trauma in your past and are possibly suffering from mental illness now, possibly as a result from that trauma. Is this correct?


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


Posts: 1116 | Registered: Jul 2012
confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How are you doing,Mel? I read some of your posts...please don't call your mother. She was/is abusive to you and I don't think she will help you,only make it worse. Can you stay with a friend?

T/j...I don't think this is a hoax. mel has been an SI member for many years. I think her posts don't sound "normal" because her WH is abusing her,and people don't react "normal" in this kind of situation. She sounds scared and confused.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7313 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
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Red  Posted: 9:38 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TXwifemom,

Your post is out of line.

You will not come on this site and accuse anyone of anything. You had already brought your concerns to a moderator earlier, so you coming out here after the fact and trying to create some mob mentality will only result in you being removed from this site.


Posts: 10000 | Registered: May 2002
Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@TXwifemom

I watched two separate 48 Hours or Dateline where both wives knew of their husbands affairs, knew of suspicious behaviors on their husbands part and even told friends and relatives and wrote letters stating that if anything happened my husband did it.

Both stayed with their husbands until they killed them, so it does happen unfortunately.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

Posts: 1581 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I stopped really eating a few days ago.

You stopped eating a few days before Tuesday?

What did you drink Tuesday night before you got wounded?


WW(SA)
"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Boris Becker

Posts: 6092 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: California
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha anyone heard anything? Does someone know where she lives? Can anyone go check on her? Going into spidey sense mode to see if I SEE anything.

[This message edited by selkiescot at 9:54 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1382 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As gently as I can, please call a crisis line for assistance in your area.
I too can stop eating when I am distresses, but you need to at minimum drink fluids. Dehydration can cause a fall, confusion and can be serious. I am a small stature woman and dehydrate easily.
I have been in your shoes, for many years. When you can let the story out it becomes real. That is going to help you heal.
Please drink a glass of water for us right now. I care, this forum cares.


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 607 | Registered: Jul 2012
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We do show that Mel was as on the site at 10:03 this morning, so that's a good sign.

Hopefully she'll post and give everyone an update


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks DS! I've been worried..as have many other members it seems.

((((((Mel))))))


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7313 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
girlsbird
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel, we are all incredibly worried about you. Please, Please go to the hospital...


D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

Posts: 1203 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: arizona
mel88
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm here, just kind of scared. And overwhelmed by some of the posts here. I guess it's a little hard to get my head around the fact that I'm not in a normal situation.


"tous dans le jeu, yo. tous dans le jeu."
-Omar

Posts: 594 | Registered: Mar 2008
dameia
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mel, its hard to see your situation from a different perspective when you are the one living it. But we are all very worried about you and can assure you, THIS IS NOT NORMAL!!!!

Your SO's behavior is bizzare, at the very least. Please get yourself to the hospital.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


Posts: 1116 | Registered: Jul 2012
Unagie
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wish you'd go to the ER. Are you scared because you don't want it to be something bad? Or are you scared because your WH contributed to it? The whole him saying it wasn't his fault seems like a strange thing for him to say. I really wish you'd go get checked.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


Posts: 2701 | Registered: Oct 2012
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please take care of yourself. Can a friend take you the hospital ?

Maybe just cut to the chase and call 911.

Please?

We care about you...be safe.


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
k8la
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel - Please go today. If he did what I think he did, you have a limited time to get a tox screen to prove it.

His behavior is abnormal for a man who loves his wife and cares for her safety.


Posts: 137 | Registered: Feb 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read this article, mel, please. Don't be Natasha Richardson. You have many of the symptoms and you have actually passed the number of days that Natasha survived, but it can turn in an instant, mel. Doesn't mean you don't have "talk and die" syndrome.

PLEASE GET IMMEDIATE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.foxnews.com/story/2009/03/19/doctor-natasha-richardson-may-have-suffered-talk-and-die-syndrome/


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9539 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
loveisareddress
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is too weird.

You need not only to get medical help, but you need to get out while you can.

It reads like a story seen on Investigation Discovery.

I feel like you are in grave danger here.


Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.

I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.


Posts: 442 | Registered: Aug 2012
Mrs Panda
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What caused the fall?

Were you drugged? The ER can run a tox screen.


Me-41 FWW Him-45BH
M 13years. Reconciled.
DDay#1 Nov 2008 (OM2)
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Confessed to OM 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut

Posts: 1971 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The SouthEast
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also feel like she is in very grave danger . I think she is trying to tell us something without telling us. I know there are some othere "gifted" people on this forum. What are you getting? Does her husband post in Wayard? Can anybody find him?

[This message edited by selkiescot at 11:19 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1382 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel, since you said you're scared, would a women's Safe Harbor Shelter (of some sort) be an appealing idea to you right now? You would be safe, in the company of people who are trained to deal with trauma of all sorts, etc.

If you need help finding a place, I'm sure that many people here would help. To stay anonymous, you could simply post your zip code. SI members could then post recommendations and probably find a place that would come pick you up.
All you would need to do is call the place, say "I'm Mel88 from the SI boards. Can you come get me ASAP at this address ........"

Just post your zip code if you want to make this happen. That's all you need to type. Everything else will be done for you.


Me: BH 56.........Her: WW 43
DD: 6..........DS: 4
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

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