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User Topic: I'm hesitant to post this.
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Mel)))
Please call 911 and just sneak out and wait for the police to come get you. They can make sure you are safe and get you to a hospital and call a women's crisis hotline for you so that you do not have to return back home after your medical crisis is taken care of.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think she can.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please seek medical help.

About 5 yrs ago a girl I grew up with next door died from head injuries.

She fell in the shower thought nothing of it and days later her husband comes home from work and finds her dead on the floor.

I not saying this to scare you but it does happen. Head injuries are tricky and can take days to for the damage to show.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone sent mel a pm? Is she responding?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you can not leave via a 911 call. Say you have to go to the store and from there if you have your cell or have someone at the store call for you.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

Posts: 1535 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
windowsnotwalls
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel, the ONLY reason someone would leave someone unconscious on the floor is so that they had an alibi if that person was found.

I agree with the others. This is a serious situation. I don't care what your past issues were. I don't care if you were a serial killer child molestor that stole little old ladie's purses, you didn't deserve to be left for dead. That sounds harsh, but that is exactly what happened!!!!!

I wouldn't leave my worst enemy unconscious lying on the floor. They can die. A dog, a child, everyone knows that. Your WS did too......so he gave himself an alibi 100mi away.

You don't need to worry yourself with major decisions now. Forget worry, forget worrying how this will affect your relationship long-term. You have the rest of your life to work out problems with your WS if you choose to from a safe place. Right now, you need a safe place ASAP. Call 911 and have them send a police car and an ambulance. I'd say get in your car and drive straight to the hospital, but I don't think it's a good idea for you to drive right now. The police will arrange shelter arrangements for you. Shelters aren't scary cots laying across the floor. They're set up like a house, with women that care, other women in similar situations, sometimes laughing fun children bringing joy. You have a room, a living room, a kitchen to cook. They supply the food, toiletries, all you need. Just gather your driver's license, and important documents you'd want if they're handy. Not required though if you can't grab them easily. Most importantly, get the police there and get out.


"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails" (Elizabeth Edwards).
http://youtu.be/62oby83NtGw
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selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mel if you can respond I sent you a pm please talk to me. If you cant then just Pm me your zip code. I will find someone to help you. Ju st type help and we will find you some. I know something isn't right with you and I am here for you. WE are here for you.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

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dameia
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm going to guess that all of us are a little overwhelming to you right now. It's only because we all care and we are worried.

If you want someone to come get you or to go to the hospital with you, or whatever, please just let us know. We're here to help you.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

"People who live in a glass house have to answer the door" -Karl Pilkington


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metamorphisis
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Red  Posted: 11:37 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel knows her options. Everyone's opinions have been clearly stated. Please stop encouraging her to post personal information. She knows she has support here. What she needs to do is see a doctor.Let's all take a breath and back off.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yes very worried.


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1354 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
selkiescot
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

agreed META agreed


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1354 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
forced2moveon
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please call 911

Your post is almost identical to what happened to my sister and she had a serious brain injury. I'm not saying this to scare you but to make you aware of how dangerous a brain injury can be. My sister's boyfriend said she slipped in the shower and hit her head. He took off and left her unconsious for 2 days. When we found her she was airlifted to the hospital and had a serious brain bleed that requied surgery and weeks of hospitalization. If she was treated earlier her outcome would have not been so bad. And her boyfriend went to prison. His story didn't add up and he finally admitted to hitting her.

Please seek medical attention asap!


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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs Mel.

I just read this. I completely understand you are overwhelmed. People here are wonderful and truly care.

One thing I have learned is that it's really difficult to see your own situation clearly. Things look different from the inside, experiencing it, than from the outside. From the outside is sometimes a bit clearer.

Take everyone's advice and get looked at. If there's no a problem then the medical professional can tell you that and you won't need to worry about it anymore. If there is a problem they can help you. Either way it really is your best move.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel

I know you are overwhelmed. We got that. Many of us with much more life experience behind us CARE. Do you hear that? We aren't, yelling at you We are viewing from the outside. No lectures just pure concern
Did you drink your water at least. For me ?


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

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StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mel,
Do you feel that you can't leave the house?

Are you afraid of what would happen if someone came to help you?

Please tell us what you can. We want to help you.

So worried about you! We all care so much about you and about keeping you safe. You are worth it, Mel, please let us help you if you are afraid to help yourself.


DDay Feb 2011.
In R.

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mel88
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all of your opinions and support. I understand that you all care, but I think taking a deep breath (I mean for myself) is a good idea. I will see a doctor.


"tous dans le jeu, yo. tous dans le jeu."
-Omar

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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((mel))))

Thanks for posting this, I'm glad that you are taking this important step.

As for the rest - one thing at a time.

((((mel))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

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EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anytime there is unconsciousness after a fall you need to go to an ER and get checked. You could have a blood clot in your head which might dislodge and cause a stroke or death.


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

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EasyDoesIt
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I think the guy you're with is an absolute jerk of an asshat for leaving you unconscious. What I think of him for expecting you to never think about or respond to his infidelity again isn't fit for publication on any forum. Lose this loser as in yesterday. What a freaking prick. Tell him you'll get over his infidelity just as soon as he unfucks the whore.


Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.

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windowsnotwalls
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Mel))))

Thanks for the update. Glad you're going to get checked out. Keep us posted. How are things today?


"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails" (Elizabeth Edwards).
http://youtu.be/62oby83NtGw
Forever Conditionally Detached

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