At 3 months out from dday,he shouldn't be going anywhere without you...certainly not alone,drinking or whatever,until 2AM.
Honey..you're right. This isn't R. It sounds like he is still cheating. Im so sorry. SO very sorry. If you need proof,check his phone. Put a VAR in his car.
Have you read the Healing Library? I see that you're very new...it's in the upper left hand corner of your screen. I also recommend the 180...but Im not sure where to find that(lol,sorry)..but Im sure someone will come along who can help you with that.
You are not over-reacting. he is being incredibly insensitive..and if he isn't cheating..he certainly isn't doing anything to heal you,himself or the marriage.
What has he done to show you he wants to R?
Is he transparent? Do you have full access to all of his online accounts?
Does he answer all of your questions without anger,defensiveness,or blaming you?
Has he gone NC with all of his affair partners? Has the husband of his EA/PA been notified of the affair?
Is he in IC to figure out his "why?"
It sounds like he's done none of this..and has had no consequences. Find your bitch boots. Don;t allow him to continue to treat you like this.
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.