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User Topic: Antiversary -- and I am happy
JustForgave
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today marks one year from the date Wh told me he wanted a divorce and he had "kissed" someone else.

What a year. It has given the word "suck" a whole new level of crappiness, and I have had to search inside myself for strength that I never knew I had. Wh, too, has done a buttload of work, after lots and LOTS of fucking up.

Today, I am in a place more wonderful than I ever imagined I would see. I have let go of (most of!) the anger and hate towards the OWs, because I see who and what they are, which is, basically, broken and sad and grasping for what happiness they thought they could get with my husband. Wh and I have a relationship based on honesty and truth, open communication and teamwork. We support each other and care about each other's feelings.

More personally, I am changing in so many ways, I can't count them. I am taking back some of the things I gave away years ago--my sense of self and the right to do things that are important to me. I am exploring new avenues and inviting new people into my life.

I am loving it all. It feels good.


Me: 47
FWH: 39 (SI username: Bumbling)
DD: 10

DDay #1: June 9, 2012
Dday #2 (TT): November 29, 2012
DDay #3 (The BIG one, ALL the TT): March 30, 2013
False R: June 12, 2012 - March 21, 2013
REAL R: March 21, 2013 - present


Posts: 278 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Texas
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to see you doing well JustForgave.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1837 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! My 1 year DDay anniversary was Saturday, and I too, am in such a better place!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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