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User Topic: Not such a good detective after all!
LoveActually
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband was working late and I was bored--so what better time to check the cell phone bill as I do from time to time. Yes, even after all this time I still get a funny feeling and go on a hunt--which, who knows, I may do for life unfortunately. So, checking through and all of a sudden I see this sickeningly familiar pattern with the a long distance number--going on for the last 2 months. The number was the 2nd most called number behind mine. Calls from the number were coming in extremely early in the morning while I was still asleep and he called it always right after talking to me or right before--just like he did before when he was cheating. My stomach flipped and I started shaking uncontrollably! Thoughts raced through my head--all of the things I was going to say and do to him to ruin his life. How could he do this to me again--I screamed that out loud! He got home and I was barely able to get words out--I showed him the number and the cell phone bill "evidence". He got a confused look on his face and said, "Honey--it's the contractor that has been doing our backyard renovations for the last 2 months--look at your phone he calls you too!" I looked at my phone and there was the number glaring out from my call log. Ughh, never been so happy and relieved to be a crappy detective!


BS (Me)
WS (Him)
D-Day 5/29/09
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs

Posts: 777 | Registered: Jan 2011
libertyrocks
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Awesome!

I did that too and realized it was my other line at work!! The other number on phone bill was me.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, that's hilarious. Kind of...

Glad he took it so well.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17498 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh God, I've done that sort of thing too. Glad it was nothing!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6809 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
neverwantedaWW
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have done that too.


Me: BS
WW EA/PA with coworker
DD OCT 14 2011
Married 19 years.

Posts: 60 | Registered: Jul 2012
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ughh, never been so happy and relieved to be a crappy detective!

I can so relate, LA.

(((LoveActually)))


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17840 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
NoraLee
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BTDT!!! Isn't the relief you feel incredible!!! It's worth feeling like a boob for getting it wrong!

I'm glad your story has a happy ending!


Me - BW - 44
Him - FWH - 42
Married 16 years
D day - 1/2 truth - July 2012
Full disclosure - August 2012
EA with skanky waitress coworker
3 kids - 14, 16, 21
In R

Posts: 791 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Canada
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

<raises hand sheepishly>

I actually paid $9.95 to some search engine to find out that a number on my H's phone was the call phone from work. I PAID to find out it was me that he was talking to.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2780 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Take2
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't done this but I wanted to say I'm thrilled for you with the way he took it!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4129 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Dance4Me
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg - Love ...I was so scared reading your post - you are on my timeline and I have been rooting for you through our journey! I thought you were gonna say you had another dday! Please don't scare me like that ever again! Lol

BTW -I still check from time to time - and there is nothing to be seen or found! But as you know, there are always other methods of contact...I shudder to think that - but it is true! Sad....


On Dday -BS-me 41 FWS-him 42
Married 19 years 3 kids (16,13,9)
D-Day 10/2/09- TT til Feb. 2010

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken.” -CS Lewis


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Beautifulmom
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So funny! Glad it worked out. Hope it gave you both a laugh!!!


33 years old (Wh and me)
Married 10 years
2 children: 4yo and 1yo
Dday#1 10/28/12
Dday#2 12/24/12 (Merry Christmas)
Affair: 3+ years (as far as I know) w/my best friend of 14 years

Posts: 71 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Beautifulmom
LoveActually
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was pretty funny in the end and I like to refer to it as "affair humor"...only peeps like us can truly relate!

@Dance--thanks honey--you will always be one of my favs--I root for you also. We are in a good place and doing well my friend--hugs


BS (Me)
WS (Him)
D-Day 5/29/09
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs

Posts: 777 | Registered: Jan 2011
millienotboo
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HF....
"I PAID to find out it was me he was talking to" LOL!


M-8 yrs together 11
Me-45 BW
Him-49-WH
D-Day 10-10-2008
In R

Posts: 758 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: South
twodoves
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes, I've been there too!


Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

Posts: 160 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Illinois
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