i found out today that my MC has breast cancer. wow. i am pretty shaken up about it. i feel so bad for her, and at the same time, i'm wondering what fwh and i are supposed to do now? she has an intern and has offered for us to continue with the intern with her supervision while she goes through surgery, recovery and and chemo, and all that stuff, but, it's an intern. i'm not real sure how i would feel about an intern being responsible for helping save my marriage. plus, the intern is young and pretty, and i know that shouldn't be a factor, but it sort of is, because of why we're in counseling to begin with. on the other hand, i'm sure it would be a good teaching experience for this girl, and getting the right perspective on recovering from infidelity could vastly improve the success rate of her future couples.
so, here's my dilemma...what would you do? would you try out the intern and see how that goes? find someone else?
Ask her for another referral with a seasoned MC who is skilled in handling couples with infidelity issues.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 30 - Yikes!
There are certain things that I'm willing to have interns use me as a guinea pig, like drawing blood and taking a medical history. But I'm really not willing to trust my marriage, especially if I have a WS that may be looking for squirm room, to an amature.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Youthful enthusiasm about just being married is on the direct opposite spectrum to a marriage dealing with infidelity.
Not. Even. Close.
Seriously. Do yourselves a favor and find a counselor skilled in dealing with betrayal.
I decided I could, and she was excellent - I changed a whole lot while in her group. 10-15 years later, she was president of her national professional association.
So I'd meet with the intern to check her out - you could be very lucky. Among other things, you can shape her the way you want her to be.
This too shall pass
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