If you feel the anger boiling inside of you, restrain from lashing out at your STBX or XS.
Come here and vent.
Do not send a litany of angry text messages to said person.
After finding out some news this morning about my XH and his LTA OW, I couldn't contain myself. I exploded.
I had let my guard down and accepted his attempts of kindness and shared support during the past few weeks of some family issues and milestones for our children. I did not stay within my boundaries of remembering who and what he is and let my heart grab onto some false and deluded hope.
I was forthright and nasty. And, you see, no one is allowed to vent or express their feelings to XH if they contradict his warped view of life.
In any event, I am now expecting that he will be having his lawyer send me a cease and desist order based on the following in our divorce agreement:
"The Parties shall continue to live separate and apart and from the date of this Agreement, free from interference by the other, as if fully unmarried, and furthermore, neither will molest, malign, annoy or trouble the other in any manner."
I am so mad at myself. I have taken the high road upon discoveries in October 2011 and since our divorce was final on January 8th of this year.
So please, heed my advice and throw your phone out the window before you consider emailing or texting out of anger.
On a side note, if anyone has done as I did and received a letter of reprimand or a letter for appearance in court, could you please share your experience or send me a PM?