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User Topic: How much more can one person take???
27yearsnowlost
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My past story is first hurricane sandy took my house, them found out my WH cheated with a hooker for BJ's and now my son was riding his motorcycle with a few friends and person cut him off and slammed on his break going from 70mph. to 30 in a second my son when head over heals over the handle bars then let the scene. Long story short my son is in the hospital with no feeling on his left side for a few days and now starting to get some feeling back. The man was arrested and charged with road rage with the intent to kill. Plus more tickets. I just pray for no more. I'm not sure how much more I can take.......


Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Fleury
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry 27.

Hang in there. Be strong for your kiddo.


What have I done to deserve this life?

Posts: 378 | Registered: May 2009
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh this is terrible! Your poor son. I hope he feels better quickly.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just keep breathing and take each thing as it comes....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8034 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my gosh. I hope your son makes a full recovery.

(((27)))

Hang in there. Son is the current priority. Focus on him right now.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 872 | Registered: Aug 2011
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope he is getting well soon!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1257 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((27years)) That is a lot of stress for one person to deal with.

I hope your son recovers very soon!


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
PanicAttack53
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry 27. One moment at a time and hang in there. You're in all our thoughts and prayers.


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 868 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope your son recovers quickly and fully.

Posts: 1694 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
sailorgirl
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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Please make sure the people around you know that you're near a breaking point and need support!


Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, no! Prayers for your son--and for all of you. How awful


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8729 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong sweetie, you can do this. I am so so sorry about your son's accident. Positive thoughts and prayers going out for you and your son.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7057 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, 27.

Best wishes for a swift and comfortable recovery for your son.

My life is as complicated as yours, but in different ways, and what I've had to learn is, unfortunately, to basically compartmentalize.

If you can live only for the day, in a moment, and take each event or issue as it comes to you, it helps. Some of the issues of life are huge, dramatic and terrible, but in the scheme of every day, it can actually be calming to only "Live In the Now", as Wayne and Garth say.

It's really helped me to put some major life changes and issues into more perspective and making lists when you can focus helps.

Giving yourself some space to just grieve and then put it away for a while is good. Another thing that helps is appealing to your senses and breathing and counting.

I wish you well and I wish you peace.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2239 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you and your son.

(((((27yearsnowlost)))))



...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1877 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
1Faith
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

God bless. Please hang in there and know that we are all praying for you and your family.


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Saying prayers for you and your son.

Sometimes all you can do is breathe and count the minutes till you take another breath. And that is ok.... just don't forget to breathe.


Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5162 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Thinkingtoomuch
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Gosh, you're right about that--"how much more..." Definitely over the top. Wow.

It is true. You're forced by sheer mental exhaustion to take one moment at a time and breathe. Take care of yourself. Drink, eat, and take care of your son.

Prayers coming your way.


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Josephine01
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs and Prayers to you 27 and your son. Good Luck


Me, 42 BS
H, 61 WH
2 boys 19 and 15 years old
Married 24 years

Posts: 314 | Registered: Feb 2013
Nailinmyforehead
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers for strength and healing for you and your family.


"Son, you've got the future- shining like a piece of gold, but I swear as we get closer- it looks more like a lump of coal"

Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Ohio
27yearsnowlost
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all the hugs and well wishes.

One breathe at a time is right....one minute at a time and my one hour at a time.

I know people said god only gives you what you can handle....but wow I think he thinks I'm Wonder Woman if that true then I want her super powers too.


Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

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