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User Topic: Ugh. Respond to this or not?
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our D is signed, according to the court system's website

Oh, well in that case....crickets!!! Fuck that idiot.
My suggestion was more along the lines of a CYA thing so that he couldn't make you look like an unresponsive asshole....

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I assume it is OWs child that is being moved - moving your child should not happen with out your express permission.

I would talk to the teacher to ensure no changes are made in respect of your child without your express permission.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, this is about OW's DD. They haven't done class placements yet, and you can send a letter making certain requests (like to keep certain kids apart, to put your child with a teacher who is very regimented because your child thrives on routine, etc.). The kids won't get their teacher letters until next month, so they were just requesting that our DDs be placed in separate classes. I'm totally fine with that. If they had written that my DD's placement be changed when she had already been placed, then I would have done something about that.

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It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK then crickets. This one goes in the Care Factor, Zero bucket.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd be tempted to get together with suckstobeme and slap the F out of him. But, since that might be frowned upon, perhaps we could refrain, just this once.

So basically, this is what happens:

1. Meet wonderful man on Ashley Madison.
2. Their love is real.
3. rip children out of their home, make them change schools, essentially tear their life apart. But they'll be ok, because their love is real.
4. worry that hmmm, maybe teacher and other classroom moms at new school might find out that I'm an Ashley Madison troll. Didn't figure on that one, or the knowing looks. Yikes. Better insist that DD and SD are not in the same classroom.
5. But our love is real, so it's ok, but just to be sure, we'll say its in the best interests of the children socially and academically.
6. Type up email for dickwad to send to his ex.
7. Our love is real

Now, maybe you're a better person than me, but you can be damn sure I'd not keep their little secret a secret for long. I'd be chit-chatting all the parents.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly, there is no real way to respond without being the 'bad' person in some way.

Why would they need your permission to move OW's kid out of the class?? That doesnt make any sense to me whatsoever.

Yeah, i would just pretend that little exchange never happened, if he tries to bring it back up just stick your fingers in your ears and go LALALALLALLALA

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Him: 37 MH
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I only text my ex about our kids, and there have been a few times even that has lead to massive, off the chain, stupid agruments about non-kid things.
I don't respond to anything personal, I don't even acknowledge them.
My vehcile broke down, and I can't afford to fix it,so my bestie insured his truck for me to use, the ex asked me if it was temporary, I just picked up my kids suite cases and walked away, like I hadn't heard it.
I hear your frustrations on him caring now, mine is like that. I worked my work schedule around his hobby schedule, so he could go play with his friends. I also was limited to working because of his work schedule, and he never, ever helped arrange child care. Now he wants them two weeks on and off. I said no; and my daughter had a meltdown at the thought of the new piece off ass looking after her.
They couldn't give two shit before, but now want to be fathers of the year? What the actual fuck??!!
I live in a small town,and know I cannot avoid school things forver. As shitty as it is, I feel it's one of those things I need to start working on now. He is still their dad and has a right to be there, wethere I want him to or not. I know it sucks, and it hurts, but you guys are going to have to just be nice and exhist around each other in those moments. I, personaly hate those moments, right now. I usuallly need a drink when I get home, but I do it for my kids.

The kids are what matter. When you feel like your going to lose your shit, remember it's all for them.

The kindergarten thing is silly, and may not be able to be controlled, this is reality, hes gotta learn to deal with it.
My ex llike to spout off how things are going to go down, and go. I ignore them, and keep on keeping on how I want to do things, and let him know he can partake if likes. I will not give him the power over me, or bully me. With his it's all about the power.

Here's hoping the rest of today is better

There is no stronger message, then dirt in your face.

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