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User Topic: Extreme fatigue -- is this normal?
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't get more than 4 hours of sleep on any night for the first 18 months after DDay. No matter what I tried, I always woke up at 4 hours or less. It was awful! Sleeping pills didn't even help.

Glad to report that after that 18th month, I've had no problems sleeping since then. Whew!!!!

DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I stopped the sleeping pills cold turkey after three months. It was hard to fall asleep at first and I still wake up at 3 or 4 in the morning thinking about the stupid A.

Having said all that, I now think that my WW would be making a mistake to leave me and she seems to finally realize that even if it's hard for her to admit it -- my story, she might tell you something different.

I reason myself to sleep when that happens. I tell myself I'm a good person and deserve good things. The 180, which took me three months before I was finally able to start pulling off, helped me detach.

Feeling that I can live a happy life with or without my wife helps me accept the stupid A and eventually get back to sleep. However much I hate the OM, I know my life will be better than his no matter what. He's a douchebag who invited destruction into his life, I'm not. We're also in the same industry. If we go ever go head-to-head on anything, I'll have a lot of rightous motivation to crush his ass. And I'll do that without ever doing anything that could land me in trouble. I don't need that and love my life (except for the A).

Me: BH
Her: WW
Together since 2001, married since 2007.
D-day: Feb. 20, 2013.
Broke NC: 2 phone calls since
Today: In MC and IC, attempting R.
It got easier: They no longer work together.

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