Long story short, 1.5 months out from Dday 1. WW had a 8 month EA/PA. I demanded NC immediately but WW went underground with electronic contact. We separated and ended MC 3 weeks ago because she couldn't stop contact. 2 weeks ago, I finally asked for a divorce when I found out she went to the beach with OM along with my daughter. After I threatened her with divorce, she said she would NC immediately. She said she has maintained NC for almost 11 days and she is going to IC. She said that in her heart she wants us, but that she is really screwed up in the head. I guess thats the fog.
I have been working on my own FOO patterns, codependency, loving myself, reconnecting with my emotions, developing stronger more intimate frienships, writing and keeping busy. But I still have some rough days like today where I feel like I am drifting away from her, or that she is drifting away from me because of the separation. But, I guess I have to trust that things will work out. I want to make it work for her, but I guess I am impatient with this fog she is in, or worrying that she will never come out of it.
Thanks for listening!