Not that I'm not fun but I can't play video games for crap. A while ago, my son tried to teach me how to play Halo and I sucked!! But you know what, I can sit with him and watch youtube videos of gameplay or trailers for new video games. Tonight we watched the trailer for Battlefield 4 and it was awesome!
I may not have the attention span for a movie and I can't believe how much movies are but if it's important to the kids, then of course we'll go and have a great time.
Thank goodness they are not into action figures and comic books because I don't think I could get into that.
When stbx walked out, within ten days he had bought them 2 video games. I think my kids know that it's not ONLY about the fun stuff. They really needed him to step up and be a parent and he won't. Now they both don't want anything to do with him and he has stopped trying.
So I think in my situation, stbx was always disneydad and since he left, how do you become even more disney-dad-ish? I guess you can't.
To my friends that are struggling with a disneydad/mom, be patient and keep doing what you are doing. In time, kids will figure it out themselves.
I don't see how he can become more Disneydadish either.. I only see his lacking in all the other areas becoming way more blatantly obvious..
But I must disagree with one thing in your post. I LOVE video games!! I could always run circles around STBX, and the boys and I spent more than 2 hours tonight playing Castlevania for the PS1. My boys WILL know the classic video games
He was always suggesting bike rides or going somewhere and got mad when I was busy doing something else (usually housework).
He took MOW's son to Disney World so I don't know if I can call him Disney Dad.
The results are happening. They don't ask to call him. They don't ask where he is or seem to miss him when he is gone. I think they already know they can't rely on him. They knew it long ago.
And talking about video games...
He bought them Skylanders for Wii at Christmas. He bought the wrong game and it won't work on our system. Has he exchanged it yet or bought them the right game? NOPE.
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He bought them Skylanders for Wii at Christmas.
Come to think of it, my sister is a "Disney Aunt." She has bought them almost every last one of those characters.. And what do the spend more time playing with? Cut out characters from the cartoon "Total Drama," printed off Google images in black and white. The boys sit there for hours making teams and "eliminating" people. Those few sheets of paper was definitely money better spent..
I know my sister means well, but these "Disney" family members should really learn that sitting down and actually playing with the kids means so much more to them than buying them a toy to play with by themselves.. It can cost nothing to get them to love you..
There is no use telling her (I have done it until I'm blue in the face). She keeps doing it.
I make sure I limit their sugar at home and try not to see her too often. The bad influences are right here in the family.
I hear you Butterfly Girl. The video games are good but their favourite game right now is office. They pretend they work in an office and use paper and staplers etc. They have a ball. Also they like to do makeovers with a small makeup kit that they got for Christmas.
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@ ButterflyGirl: remind me never to challenge you in a video game!! I can't even figure out the controllers!! Soo much buttons!
That includes the fun times and the important times. He usually came home from work, ate dinner and went to the bedroom. He rarely spent any time with us.
During and after the divorce he was only disney dad. Even when he had the kids he would pawn them off on someone else or ignore them all together. I'm not sure that he ever spent any quality time with the kids. Now he's not even in their lives.