So finally OLD guy shot himself in the hypothetical foot last night. I had given him my phone number (reluctantly after the last douche experience) trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. He asked more questions than shared information about himself. I asked questions but got pretty limited responses. He called my phone the other night and I thought...."Wow...maybe this could be a good thing"... It rang like twice, I answered....silence and then it went dead... followed by a text message saying "I tried to call you." I sent him one directly back saying, "I answered the phone but it went dead?" No response for 3 hours... when he said, "Oh sorry....I just finished getting a good workout"
Okey Dokey. Then, not much of anything yesterday..... except a good morning text and then one at like 10:40pm saying he had been busy and he was sorry for not talking more. I told him that was okay...I figured he was just the quiet type...and his response was...
"I'm not quiet once you get to know me.... here's a pic for you....good night sweet dreams"
AND...THE TOKEN SHIRTLESS IN THE BATHROOM MIRROR WITH THE CELL PHONE PIC.....
I was not amused. I was not intrigued. I did not respond. He was immediately blocked from my phone and the OLD site.
Sheesh. I will be taking my "picker" to the shop to be repaired....
ME - BW - 34
HIM - XWH - 38
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
And, my response was, "I was married for 5 years and my ex-husband cheated on me so I am absolutely NOT married!" I could hear the back-pedaling a mile away and he said he wasn't married either but had gotten close once. I asked him about her and he said that she was gorgeous...but not very educated. So, it couldn't work and they mutually decided they didn't want to get married. Deep. Very deep.
I should have blocked him then. Lesson Learned.
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:43 AM, June 13th (Thursday)]
And I know I'm jaded (for now) but: late night only messages, terse responses, vague answers, and then - you can text me... that doesn't add up to "looking for a long term relationship". It does however fit with a guy already in one...
I'm on the verge of closing down my OLD site attempts for a while. My luck sucks. And, apparently, my picker is still broke. I tried to weed them out like my IC therapist said and look for guys that had similar tastes and education but FAIL.
I'm not a guy, but I do have a theory on that....
I think that guys that do that are going on the "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" principle. My guess is that they hope that giving a shirtless picture will prompt the woman to give a shirtless pic - and know that's an ambitious hope, but hope that at least maybe they'll get a bikini shot or something like that back.
And I think they are working on the same principle that spammers work on: sure, the approach won't be successful with 99% of the women they use it on, but that 1% that does respond to it makes it worth it.
Also, I think the motivation for these pictures (the shirtless or other "sexy" pictures) is different from the ones who send pictures of their "best buddy" in all its glory. I think those guys are the digital equivalent of the flasher in a raincoat. I guess the physical distance of sending a picture on-line vice having to expose oneself up-close and in-person has given a lot more weirdos the courage to indulge their exhibitionist tendencies.
[This message edited by osxgirl at 9:12 AM, June 13th (Thursday)]
Well I have the day off so I've been trimming some trees in one of my fields. I just got back from the gym and out of the shower so now I'm trying to motivate myself to get dressed . Unsuccessfully lol
Wow.... just wow. Dropping my panties as we speak.
Needless to say.... he will receive "crickets" as a response to THAT!
Cause seeing your half naked body with a toilet and a dirty towel in the background ALWAYS gets my engines going.
Yeah... me too!