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User Topic: Betrayed Men - Part 11
Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great metaphor

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's time
I'm such a dummy when it comes to relationships. I copied Ryebreads description of an abuser. I usually text it to myself and save it. I accidentally sent it to her. I'm actually laughing. She sent me a nasty diatribe. I'm going to dive in.
Her
Have a nice day. I don't hate you. I just can't do this anymore. You are in denial. I'm so sorry for you. It must be so painful to be you. Btw, I don't have that kinda of "power". Maybe one day you will be happy again. Maybe you should try to be alone and find yourself. The nice you is wonderful but he left me years ago
I miss the old and fun us, I do. Too bad this ended like this. I will always love you and miss you. Time to move on and heal for us. Good bye. Have a great day!You have plenty of friends to whine to.

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wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also got the denial and lack of acknowledgement of what she did....

You're ordeal is like a flashback to me...

It ends when you say it does...

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ooops! :)

I hate to admit but I got a chuckle out of that too. Maybe it was a freudian slip of somekind or maybe your subconscious was taking over.

As you can see she flipped it around on you like you've always been the problem. Then pretends to have your best interests at heart. Where was the concern when she was going apeshit with her fists? Classic abusive behavior right there.

I'm sure she has her good qualities but the bad ones have taken over and the moments of calm are only spaces of anxiety before the next storm.

Stay strong brother.


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It ends when you say it does...

And there it is. It couldn't be any plainer than this.


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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Posted: 12:08 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013
Ooops! :)
I hate to admit but I got a chuckle out of that too. Maybe it was a freudian slip of somekind or maybe your subconscious was taking over.

As you can see she flipped it around on you like you've always been the problem. Then pretends to have your best interests at heart. Where was the concern when she was going apeshit with her fists? Classic abusive behavior right there.


I saw that I sent it to her and I was like oh shit!
Then I just laughed. Sat back and waited to see how she would twist it up. I didn't even bother with a follow up. It is what it is.
Any way she made herself an example of exactly what you posted by the numbers.
You can probably find all the clues in her one response.

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I called my attorney's office. He's on vacation next week so I'm looking at the beginning of July. He knows what to do. I'm wondering if I should go with legal separation or flat out divorce. The separation is less expensive and morphs into a divorce. It also hammers out all the details.
Here was her last mind fuck text.
She's still playing the game.
Her
I'm very sorry we ended this way. I love you very much and always will. I truly hope we can move on soon and you can be in a peaceful situation without the stress of all this and we can be cordial one day. I can apologize over and over to no avail but what's happened has happened. Good bye. Wish I could take it all back but can't. You're free, you should feel relieved and a sense of peace now. You're a single male in the prime of his life. Have a great future. I wish you all the best. From this point on I am finished apologizing and begging forgiveness and for you back. What's done is done and I have apologized profusely. There is nothing more I can do. I can't imagine being punished further. I've let go. XOXOXOXO

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

444:
That txt just proves at this point in time she is completely incapable of understanding what her actions have done. Who knows maybe she never will, some people are just incapable of any type of empathy. Many days I fear this of my wife. Its a hard thing to face, knowing that they only feel for themselves.


Me:35 WW:34 M:13yrs
3 young children
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, I am probably going to step on someone's toes -- but I did not realize adults signed off with X's and O's.

May just be showing my age.

In any case, signing off on that text like that is certainly odd. She continues to be all over the place.


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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife and her boyfriend used to sign off with x's and o's. When you really Luuuuurrrvve somebody, the x's and o's show just how fucking perfect it is!


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife and her boyfriend used to sign off with x's and o's. When you really Luuuuurrrvve somebody, the x's and o's show just how fucking perfect it is!

XXOO


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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And B444, I don't think you ever bothered telling us that she has already done all she can do. What's wrong with you? She said she's sorry.

BTW, how many goodbye texts can one person send to another? Doesn't FEMA or Homeland Security regulate this shit?


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wert
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife and her boyfriend used to sign off with x's and o's. When you really Luuuuurrrvve somebody, the x's and o's show just how fucking perfect it is!

Mine too...proof of the 7th grade nature of the relationships.



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noescape
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the moments of calm are only spaces of anxiety before the next storm

thanks Rye, describes my sitch to a T, so if you gents will allow, I'm borrowing it for my tag.

I collect tags like the predator collects skulls


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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, I am probably going to step on someone's toes -- but I did not realize adults signed off with X's and O's.

Well WAL said she was 16 and this is at the end of all her texts to me. Prob OM also. Sick huh. Makes it all better. She's mind fucking.

And B444, I don't think you ever bothered telling us that she has already done all she can do. What's wrong with you? She said she's sorry.
BTW, how many goodbye texts can one person send to another? Doesn't FEMA or Homeland Security regulate this shit?
lol, sorry. Guess she's done everything and she's over it.
And as for the good byes. Every time she crosses the line and I'm about to walk I get some kind of good bye, I'm sorry, I love you, and xoxo.
It's like that cycle I wrote about. She thinks a detaching text will pull me back, well they have, WW's have their own 180 tactics.

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

describes my sitch to a T

Lived that way for years without realizing it. Funny how an A really opens our eyes to things we blinded ourselves to. I wouldn't go as far as to say it was a good thing but it has been an educational experience that I probably wouldn't have had otherwise. Can't progress if you don't know what you are progressing from I suppose.

I'm borrowing it for my tag.

Consider it yours!


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WW's have their own 180 tactics

I think its more like a 360 with multiple stops at 45, 90, and 270 degrees. :)


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think its more like a 360 with multiple stops at 45, 90, and 270 degrees. :)

Reading her text again she is basically saying that it sucks to be me.
Now she is telling me that her domestic violence classes will conclude tomorrow and CPS is trying to manipulate the place to prevent her from finishing.
Her words for the CPS worker
"The wicked witch is trying to take my ruby slippers!"
Wow

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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope that domestic violence class is a "how to" class, otherwise they really suck at their job.

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope that domestic violence class is a "how to" class, otherwise they really suck at their job.

Lol. Well it isn't about preventing violence. I think they taught her lateral knee strikes to the thigh. Hate to admit it but I'm still sore. That's never happened before.

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