"Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie"
I don't want this to come accross as bragging, because I had nothing to do with it, but I am not ugly, I was blessed by God with good genes and a wonderful mother who raised me with this very important understanding..
Pretty is, is pretty does. It doesn't matter what you look like on the outside, it is what's on the inside that counts.
She is UGLY, where it matters most.
"The past is a guidepost, not a hitching post" L Thomas Holdcroft
I think it has everything to do with you and how you are percieving them.
Plus, I've read here, where one woman's H slept with a porn star looking one and a fat one. IT ALL HURTS.
I just saw a new pic of one of my H's OW. It hurt me, too. :( But, I'm still awesome, way nicer, smarter, prettier than her! Ha.
LostandBetrayed is right anyway. Her outward looks are just a facade. Inside she is ugly and dark as dirt.
[This message edited by Mack9512 at 11:18 AM, June 14th (Friday)]
I get you about wanting to "unsee" it. I found a pic of MOW's close up twat on his phone during false R.
Sending you some hugs and mental eye bleach. Everyone is right, it doesn't matter what she looks like.. It's not a reason or explanation for why he lied and deceived you..
ugly or pretty doesnt change anything i think have a face to the enemy just hurts plain and simple .
I'M ON THE FENCE
I AM THE WHOLE PACKAGE
Right on Copingdaily!
[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 12:31 PM, June 14th (Friday)]
And I agree, I think the inside of a person's mind and heart matter more, but I understand the esteem problems an A can bring us, too.
FWIW, I have a neighbor who's been supportive and she's a BS also (no internet there, so no SI, but she'd be good for the site...anyway...
She is downright gorgeous, tall and blond with large doe eyes and still got cheated on. I am basically opposite her and got cheated on. I think our outsides don't always matter, I think it's more related to standards and morals.
I will say, that I've been reached out to by an Ex of about 25 years ago, who has contacted me electronically before. He gives the same song and dance of a guy looking for an OW, "my wife is awful but I can't leave her because she's ill" and so on...
I told him several times "where to go" and gave him a NC letter as well and cried for his wife. Now, he was a BF of mine as a teenager and cheated on me with his wife. Now contacting me again, especially in this time?
It's a little of track of the original post, but I was trying to say that I do think it can be just an easy mark and person willing to be manipulated and so on.
I was very proud, suffice to say, with my lonlieness so huge and needs so much, that still I kept my standards and said, "go away."
Why couldn't OW do that when she learned Perv was M?
And back to FallDown, don't forget that your esteem may be low right now so you might view her temporarily as attractive, but maybe later you won't?
And why do we have this curiosity about a person who helped change and ruin our lives, anyway?
The times, they are'a changin'! -Bob Dylan