Of course, she wanted me to keep the kids for that day (as I do every weekend), because "the best gift would be a day to myself". Mother of the fucking year.
Anyhow, now it's Fathers' Day, and it's the weekend, and I'm glad to have my boys with me. Not that I would want it, but she didn't offer me a day to myself. The boys had a store-bought card for me, and a $50 gift card to a fast food restaurant.
I mean, I am very much a burger kind of guy, but couldn't she have tried a little harder?
But here's the best part. She also sent a FD card for me - from HER!
The front said: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."
The inside had a little poem about how I'm so perfect and shouldn't change anything about myself. Then she wrote: "Thank you for being a wonderful daddy to our boys."
Now, maybe this is a genuine effort on her part to be nice to me on my first lone FD, but for some reason it really pisses me off.
She felt the need to treat me like shit for 17.5 years, and cheat on me however many times, but wants to remind me how perfect I am.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
The boys live with me and we had a nice steak dinner tonight, which is all I need. Tomorrow they will do their thing and I will watch the US Open on TV and will be quite happy!
Focus on you and the kids. And enjoy your Father's Day, pass.
"Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in." -Cohen
I also had the girls on Fathers Day (September in Australia) - "it means nothing to the girls and it means nothing to me". Yes, he actually said that.
No good deed goes unpunished.
No more gifts friend - she is not your mother nor is she your wife. Please don't twist yourself up into a knot about what she bought you.
Beware the hoovering friend. I suggest you use my mantra whenever I feel a fishing expedition coming on:
There are no fish in this pond. This pond has no water. Fuck off.
"the best gift would be a day to myself"
FWIW, I doubt there is anything she could have done that would make you happy. Forget about it and enjoy your children. They are what Father's Day is about.
2 Ddays and lots of TT
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
If she hadn't given me a card, I probably would have been pissed about that.
Time to get back to my kids.
Don't let her crazy ruin your enjoyment of today. And, uh, no more expensive gifts for her...fuck her.
I have my whole clan here today. All 7 kids plus 2 of the boys GFs and DGS. We just had a huge BBQ and are watching TV now.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Whatever. Take the fact that you are way better off without her as your Father's Day gift.