So, even though he may have erased her from his life by now, I have no clue. But my pain is right now. My anger and hopelessness is right now. He never told me about her.
The feeling of being terrified, of me and my children being abandoned, is quite horrific. Sadly, it's nothing new and today is just another DDay.
Happy father's day.
I'm so sorry.
My journey to survive from my husbands multiple affairs and sex addiction.
A good book is The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson.
What she'd describe you're in right now is the shattering stage, and a gentle loving reminder that it does pass. So sorry for your pain today. Big hugs.
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
I remember what it was like dealing with FWS's TT. The knives were always so sharp as they went into my back. Even though I was numb by that time...they still hurt.
ETA: I second the recommendation for the book, The Journey from Abandonment to Healing. It was very helpful not just to me, but also to my very damaged WH.
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I'm so saddened also that all the progress I'd been making in the past few months, was destroyed by something that could have been so easily avoided, if only WH had a shred of backbone and moral character.
I'm also saddened by the idea (truth?) that R may be a foolish hope.
I'll be looking into the book too. Thanks again.