Driving home today, I see Waffle and MOW, driving in her car towards the restaurant area of our town. It is one thing to know that MOW exists, duh. It is something else entirely to randomly run into them.
Who is this fucking pod person??
And, for some reason, I have this crazy anger, almost to the point of rage, at the thought of her having a toothbrush in the toothbrush holder we registered for.
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WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW. Undiagnosed SA?)
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I'm also pretty lucky because I know how ridiculous they would look together. She dresses like a starving uni student even though she never went to uni. He dresses like a MLC loser trying to recapture his youth.
Mutual friends have commented on how ridiculous they look. My servo (gas station) guy asked if he had other children as he thought she was his teen daughter
My view is he would look ridiculous in that getup with or without her. She just completes the picture of hilarity.
He very kindly took me to a wedding with her when I was pregnant with DD2. Her then BF dropped her off and I wondered why he didn't stop to say hello - I now realise he most likely knew they were having an affair. Anywhoo - we had a good laugh at how ridiculous THEY looked together. He was quite a weird looking unwashed kind of hobo guy.
Ironic how hard he laughed - her old BF is better looking and better suited to her than the sad clown is. Irony is indeed lost on the stupid.
I know how ridiculous they would look together
This is ex and ow! Two people in their 40's, both of whom, by nature look older than their age, dressing like 20-somethings! ow puts low ponytails in her hair like she's some cutesy thing and ex spends $150 on jeans. Combine with his gray hair (and now gray beard) and her fugly "rode hard" looks...it's comical!
I told ex that I may have been able to understand his A better if he at least would have picked a pretty woman. She is an insult to me!
However, all that said...it still sucks to see them together!
I'm not sure that she has custody of her kids. Wonder if there is a reason, or if she is simply just as selfish as he is? Or maybe they have 50/50, who knows.
I hate each little reminder that he is well past the point of no return. I have no idea who I married and had children with. It's a little disorientating.
I see STBX and OW most weekends at my son's sports matches playing happy families. It makes me feel better when I see how hideously old and gray the ex is looking and how they're both carrying quite a bit of extra weight
I've fortunately never seen them together, just pictures.
I make it a point to never go anywhere where I think I may see him/them/it. As a j/i/c, I have a friend who knows to bail me out if need be.
It's like two people in my mind...one who loved me before but is no longer on the earth and this one who resembles him but is not...is older looking, larger, more bald...if "he" comes, like to collect DD for visits, I pretend it's one of her friends. If he mows the lawn, I pretend it's a handyman or the neighbors. It may sound delusional, but it helps.
I'm looking for indifference, too, and right now I'm in a place full of disgust, where he seems very... dirty in my mind.
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge