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User Topic: my beloved eva
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The joy of pets is that we can enjoy many of them in our lifetime. The sadness is their lifetimes are usually so much shorter than ours. Grieve on your own time, in your own way and honor her role in your life with memories of her love for you. (((((Hugs)))))


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1118 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sitting here bawling right now. My heart breaks for all 3 of you. The pain is gut wrenching when you lose a fur baby.

I wish there were words to give you that would ease your pain but I know that there are none.

I know the agony you are going through and pray for you. I felt the loss and was introduced to the Rainbow Bridge. I took a lot of comfort in that. If you haven't heard of it, you might want to check it out.

Keeping you in my prayers!

[This message edited by AgainandAgain at 5:38 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


Posts: 231 | Registered: Feb 2012
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry. I've often thought I needed a dog-child to be my companion through all of this. Aren't our fur-kids so much more understanding than people?

Hugs to you.


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
Jospehine85
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for you and Ocktobermest.

Some pets are just animals. Others are family members.

Then there are those very, very few who actually become a part of our soul. It is so painful to lose them.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 830 | Registered: Jun 2012
Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so very sorry about your precious Eva. They are never 'just pets'.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{{{{LH & OKM}}}}}

I'm so sorry.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7916 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
brokensunflower
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sorry for your pet hun


me 33
him 32
5 wonderful kids 12 yrs 8 yrs 5 yrs 4 yrs and 2 yrs ..and new baby
married 10 years together for 12 yrs
working on R

my give a damn is busted


Posts: 212 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: cold ohio
alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a gorgeous animal! Reading this and sensing your pain I almost vomited.


Hugs all around!


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 349 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In so many ways, that kitten helped keep us together.

I am so very sorry for your loss. Our pets are so much more than animals. We need them in our lives and they reciprocate with non-judgemental love.
Our three cats (two of whom are 10 years of age) have certainly helped us navigate this situation. I don't know what I would do without my Smudge, and I hope that time will still be far off into the future.
Our son just lost one of his cats the same way you lost Eva. He is heartbroken, too.

(((hugs)))


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

Posts: 2839 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: Where a river runs through it
dmari
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is beautiful and her life was cut way way way too early. I am so sorry for you loss. Eva was not "just a cat" ~ she will always be a part of your family. Rest In Peace Eva.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2144 | Registered: Oct 2012
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. My evil old cat kept me alive through the betrayal also. Maybe you will smile a little at this picture- (think satan in a fur coat) he is a pure black cat, with one normal eye and one bulging dead ugly gray one. His head is always slightly crooked becase of neurosurgery to remove a tumor. He also has an open gaping ear canal where they had to go in for the surgery. Pretty, no? You would think he would work on his personality to make up for his looks, but no. Sometimes when you pet him he bites you. Sometimes when you walk by him he claws you. Dont even get me started on the "roid rage he had when he was on steroids due to the tumor (got the scars to prove it). But when XWF left, he sat on my lap everynight for six straight weeks and just looked into my eyes purring. Has never done it before or since. Odd, that. I know that he knew. And after a couple of weeks XWF had to come back to get some things (that cat had always liked him) he tried to pet him and my evil cat bit the crap out of him. Blood and everything. He got tuna for dinner that night....and wouldn't even eat it. No cat skills at all. So sorry again for your loss.. your cat was very beautiful.


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1169 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, no, no she was not just a cat...she was a very important member of your family, a beautiful member of your family. My heart hurts for both you and OctoberMest.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope all the happy memories that you shared with Eva will comfort you.

A Parting Prayer

Dear Lord, please open your gates
and call St. Francis
to come escort this beloved companion
across the Rainbow Bridge.

Assign her to a place of honor,
for she has been a faithful servant
and has always done her best to please me.

Bless the hands that send her to you,
for they are doing so in love and compassion,
freeing her from pain and suffering.

Grant me the strength not to dwell on my loss.
Help me remember the details of her life
with the love she has shown me.
And grant me the courage to honor her
by sharing those memories with others.

Let her remember me as well
and let her know that I will always love her.
And when it's my time to pass over into your paradise,
please allow her to accompany those
who will bring me home.

Thank you, Lord,
for the gift of her companionship
and for the time we've had together.

And thank you, Lord,
for granting me the strength
to give her to you now.

Amen.

by Kim Crenshaw Duckworth


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2109 | Registered: Nov 2011
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I'm so sorry, crying right along with you guys.

I had two beautiful Siamese and was blessed with many years of their companionship, cannot imagine losing them so soon.

They are very very special creatures, the Orientals.

I hope you can find a new companion to fill the void.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17317 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crying for you here.
I'm so sorry you've lost your beloved kitty.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, (((LH))) I am so, so sorry. I sit here with my Chloe next to me, and Phineas not far away....and I so understand the comfort Eva brought you.

I am unspeakably sorry for your pain.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8539 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My condolences on the loss of your furbaby. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5013 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
isadora
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((LH & OM))

I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved pet.


Me: BW Him: WH
Married: 10 yrs
4 children: DDs 6&4; DSs 2& baby
2 Affairs - 2010 year long PA/EA, 2008 2 month online EA
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.


Posts: 4506 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Back home again in Indiana
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..

..feeling your pain and your deep loss.

..you honour her life with your love and tears.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4119 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
mysticpenguin
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm on my phone so will be brief --

So sorry for your loss. She is beautiful. <3

[This message edited by mysticpenguin at 11:51 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LH, OktoberMest,Eva))))

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