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User Topic: Read this about trust
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"You either trust yourself or you don't trust yourself. When you don't trust yourself, you will not trust other people.
When you do not trust other people, you cannot trust the process of living or loving in which other people are involved. When you don't trust love other people you cannot live openly or fully. When you are not open to living fully, it means that you expect to be hurt. This expectation makes you constantly afraid that you can't handle the pain. When you don't believe you can handle something, it means you don't trust yourself. This is exactly where we started." -

Iyanla Vanzant.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."


Posts: 4508 | Registered: Dec 2010
loveisareddress
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a load to me...


Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.

I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.


Posts: 442 | Registered: Aug 2012
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It doesn't address trying to regain trust in someone who stabbed you in the back so...

I do agree we must trust ourselves. I came to the conclusion that I found out once, I'll find out again if he cheats on me, and that I'm strong enough to take it. So, I trust myself 100%.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6306 | Registered: Jan 2011
crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exactly, Rebreather! You nailed it!

Happens again, trust me...I'm outta here!


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

Posts: 179 | Registered: Mar 2010
JustWow
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

some people I simply do not trust because they are untrustworthy. I trust my gut and common sense and my own two eyes, so therefore I don't trust them. I trust they can work on their shit far away from me and my life will be fuller without them. I trust that sometimes it is wise to not trust some people.

[This message edited by JustWow at 5:03 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)


Posts: 3585 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Midwest
Kierst13
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I trust me. I trust me to take care of me and make decisions that are in my best interest. However, there are other people I do not trust with me, and it has nothing to do with me trusting myself.

It has everything to do with them being untrustworthy people. I can always pick myself up and dust myself off no matter what anyone else does to me, no matter how heinous, doesn't mean I will trust the offender again. At some point that would simply make me a fool.


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
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