Topic: It's time - hospice for Mom
Member # 36072
| Posted: 9:36 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry. Sending prayers your way.
One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz
Posts: 1135 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 34697
| Posted: 9:59 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013|
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Posts: 4619 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 30742
| Posted: 10:16 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013|
So sorry to read this. No words, just hugs and prayers.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Posts: 1253 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 20150
| Posted: 1:06 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Aw NIK, sometimes the hits just never seem to stop.
I'm so sorry.
Rest and be strong for your lovely dad.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 17385 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 16590
| Posted: 1:44 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry.
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert
Posts: 3231 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
Member # 8142
| Posted: 4:10 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Hospice was wonderful for my mother, and later for my father, too.
I was still in shock from my son's death when my mother entered Hospice care so that is very blurry, but I hope to have Hospice in future should I need them as all I wish for is to be kept comfortable, period.
NIK~ You can PM me at this sorrowful time, too.
(((((sending huge warm hugs))))
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
Posts: 25429 | Registered: Sep 2005
Member # 12041
| Posted: 4:54 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Sending love and strength to you. I am sorry.
“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin
Posts: 44665 | Registered: Sep 2006
Member # 16024
| Posted: 5:15 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry.
Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Posts: 37560 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 6687
| Posted: 5:25 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry. Sending you and your family warm hugs.
In our experiences with Hospice, they were angels and made things as peaceful and comfortable as you could ask for when the end came. Ours had such a calming air that they somehow made it seem like the simple task of our home for those days was a natural letting go. Especially as your Dad has been her caregiver, much of the mantle of day to day care can be removed from his shoulders and let him say goodbye in peace.
Posts: 3190 | Registered: Mar 2005
Member # 36622
| Posted: 6:28 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
In our experiences with Hospice, they were angels
Your family is is my prayers
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2580 | Registered: Aug 2012
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 6:37 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
I'm so sorry NIK.
I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.
Posts: 20144 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 26465
| Posted: 6:42 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
I am so sorry..
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
Posts: 3187 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
Member # 15300
| Posted: 7:55 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
(((NIK))) So sorry.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 7205 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 31094
| Posted: 8:13 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
((((((((NIK and family)))))))))
Posts: 3371 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Member # 32810
| Posted: 8:27 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Posts: 13733 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 17460
| Posted: 8:37 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Huge hugs, sister.
There are true angels that work in hospice care. I assure you they will do all they can to make your mom's transition as peaceful as possible.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
Posts: 21049 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 21101
| Posted: 8:39 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
The only bad thing about Hospice is too many people wait too long to get the benefit of it.
Make sure you all take adavantage of the grief support that they (should) offer to the family too.
I have been on both sides of Hospice as a caregiver, and as a family member, and can say my experiences have been of peace, love, and support.
God bless all of you, and may your mom have peace and comfort.
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy
Posts: 8433 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 35846
| Posted: 8:46 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Your post made my heart hurt. I have yet to get to this stage in my life and I dread the day it comes.
Prayers for you and your family in the tough days to come.
(((hugs))) to your dad.
I am so truly sorry for your pain.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
We have R'd
Posts: 3800 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:38 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Thank you all. You would think that having years to prepare would make this easier, but it really doesn't.
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
Posts: 25264 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 209
| Posted: 12:19 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
It doesn't matter how long you have to prepare - there is no preparing for seeing someone go. I am so sorry. I know its little comfort, but we are all here for you.
Two boys: 17 and 14
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Posts: 25528 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
|Topic Posts: 56|