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User Topic: It's time - hospice for Mom
dameia
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

I'm so sorry. Sending prayers your way.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


Posts: 1135 | Registered: Jul 2012
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4619 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry to read this. No words, just hugs and prayers.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1253 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 1:06 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aw NIK, sometimes the hits just never seem to stop.

I'm so sorry.

Rest and be strong for your lovely dad.

xo FF


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17385 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 1:44 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

(((NIK)))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3231 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 4:10 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hospice was wonderful for my mother, and later for my father, too.
I was still in shock from my son's death when my mother entered Hospice care so that is very blurry, but I hope to have Hospice in future should I need them as all I wish for is to be kept comfortable, period.

NIK~ You can PM me at this sorrowful time, too.

(((((sending huge warm hugs))))


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 4:54 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((nik)))))))))
Sending love and strength to you. I am sorry.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

I'm so sorry.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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circe
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Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))))

I'm so sorry. Sending you and your family warm hugs.

In our experiences with Hospice, they were angels and made things as peaceful and comfortable as you could ask for when the end came. Ours had such a calming air that they somehow made it seem like the simple task of our home for those days was a natural letting go. Especially as your Dad has been her caregiver, much of the mantle of day to day care can be removed from his shoulders and let him say goodbye in peace.


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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))
In our experiences with Hospice, they were angels

^^^amen

Your family is is my prayers


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry NIK.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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heartache101
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

I am so sorry..


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))) So sorry.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7205 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((NIK and family)))))))))

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww, NIK.

Huge hugs, sister.

There are true angels that work in hospice care. I assure you they will do all they can to make your mom's transition as peaceful as possible.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21049 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))))

The only bad thing about Hospice is too many people wait too long to get the benefit of it.

Make sure you all take adavantage of the grief support that they (should) offer to the family too.

I have been on both sides of Hospice as a caregiver, and as a family member, and can say my experiences have been of peace, love, and support.

God bless all of you, and may your mom have peace and comfort.

(((and strength)))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8433 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

Your post made my heart hurt. I have yet to get to this stage in my life and I dread the day it comes.

Prayers for you and your family in the tough days to come.

(((hugs))) to your dad.

I am so truly sorry for your pain.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3800 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all. You would think that having years to prepare would make this easier, but it really doesn't.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((NIW)))))))

It doesn't matter how long you have to prepare - there is no preparing for seeing someone go. I am so sorry. I know its little comfort, but we are all here for you.

Hugs again.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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