Topic: It's time - hospice for Mom
Member # 13813
| Posted: 1:53 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
(((NIK))) Sending prayers for peace for you and your dad.
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
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Member # 27035
| Posted: 5:15 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Thank you all. You would think that having years to prepare would make this easier, but it really doesn't.
It doesn't help in this moment, no. I have found that it eased things afterward. That sounds weird, but I feel like it has made the grieving afterward easier. (easier being a relative term - none of it is easy) I feel like I came to acceptance a lot sooner than I would have if my father's death was sudden.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Posts: 5296 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 27303
| Posted: 6:17 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Oh honey, hugs to you. Hospice care will give your Dad some comfort and rest and I believe they can come out 24/7.
I have worked with some hospice patients in my line of work, and the experience to provide dignity at the end of
life is wonderful.
Me-41 FWW Him-45BH
M 13years. Reconciled.
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DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Confessed to OM 2001)
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Posts: 1992 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The SouthEast
Member # 10552
| Posted: 6:19 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
Oh honey, I am so sorry.
Knowing it's coming doesn't make it easier. There's just no way to truly prepare for something like this.
(((((Empress and family)))))
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Member # 27539
| Posted: 6:20 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
((((((((NIK and family)))))))))
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Member # 30826
| Posted: 6:23 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
M: June 2001
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Posts: 7694 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Member # 30024
| Posted: 6:40 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
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Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 34353
| Posted: 8:08 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013|
I am sorry. Sending you good thoughts during this time
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Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Member # 3031
| Posted: 9:45 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm sorry NIK. After all you've been through ...
Peace to all.
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| Posted: 9:47 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
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Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Member # 33128
| Posted: 10:02 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
I am so sorry Nik.
Hospice is wonderful. I heart if heavy for your dad also. My heart is heavy for you and your family. I do understand what you are going thru. I am here if you ever need a friend.
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
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Posts: 2791 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 31240
| Posted: 10:49 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
I'm so sorry. I wish hugs and comfort for your Mom and Dad and you.
When it's time, it's best for your Mom - that doesn't help the survivors much, though.
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
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Posts: 10383 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
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| Posted: 10:53 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
Posts: 19732 | Registered: Aug 2006
Member # 24849
| Posted: 12:33 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
OMG (((NIK))) my heart breaks for you and your dad. Sending you prayers for comfort.
FWW - 41
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Posts: 5978 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
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| Posted: 5:06 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
It's so hard, I'm so sorry
DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??
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Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
Member # 20849
| Posted: 5:25 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013|
NIK, I am so so sorry. Sending you and your family hugs and positive thoughts......((((NIK and family))))
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
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