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User Topic: I threw DS23 out yesterday
2oldforthis
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs Prayers (PPGA)

It is so hard when it comes to our kids. I feel for you.


He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!

Love kills slowly.


Posts: 1640 | Registered: Jun 2008
scarredforever
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(PPGA) My heart breaks for you.
I know what it is like to have a son who has broken my heart many times.


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1056 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((PPGA))))

I'm getting close with DS20 and praying I don't have to go through with it. Please find peace knowing that you are doing the right thing for him.

A friend told us the story of how his mother had to throw him ou tof the house. She was wracked with guilt. He told her many years later that it was the best thing that she could have done for him and he so appreciates it. I hope things will be better for you both in the long run.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3406 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga))) (((ppga's whole family)))

Dealing with mental illness is heartbreaking, even more so when it is your baby. You all have been through so much hell, no one should have to go through that.

Wishing you all peace and serenity.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9543 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Sending you lots of strength. (((((ppga)))))


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20031 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending love PPGA.. I am so sorry you are hurting again



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry (((HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((PPGA & family))))


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9694 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
ToTrustAgain
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mother's refusal to let me come back home is what saved my life.

You did the right thing.

Hang in there!


"We will not regret the past, nor wish to shut the door on it."

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Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 11:32 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 726 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My SO has a 19YO daughter that is a real brat.
She came home from college and pretty much decided she did not have to follow any rules since she was grown up now.
I bought my SO a book on Amazon on how to deal with kids like that.

The book said that unless you take a stand, you are essentially just "enabling" bad behavior.
It advised doing what you are doing and just like you have here, getting a support group to help you out.
If you are interested in the book, send me a PM and I will find the name of it.
I read it myself and found it very informative.
Her daughter is now living with her father. That makes it all harder to control.
My SO has some sad moments, but overall she feels much better about herself.
Hang in there
(((PPGA)))

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 11:32 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 726 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
nightsky
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga)))) I'm so sorry for the pain you and your family are experiencing.

You are a strong, loving, caring woman.

Strength and peace to you and your family.


BW (me) – WH (him) mid-50s Married 33 yrs

DD 6/2012 –WH has been paying $$$ for online video sex chats and calls his favorite “my girlfriend.”

"Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith" Margaret Shepard


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((ppga))))))

Posts: 3355 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((PPGA & family))))
Thinking of you guys. I applaud you for making a very hard decision. my family had same decision to make with my addict brother. Very hard. But in hind site, it was really the healthiest thing to do, he was toxic for the family at that point.


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((PPGA & family)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9991 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all.

I am still in anguish. I am now agonizing over my long standing unspoken fear that he may be schizophrenic/schizoaffective and misdiagnosed as bipolar.

His behavior recently has been concerning, although it could be attributed to his drug abuse.

He has been pacing a lot in the last month or so.

On Monday he told me he had lost his wallet. Again. For about the 4th time in the past year. I joked and said that he may need to get a GPS device for his wallet so he could find it the next time he loses it. He looked at me with complete seriousness and said, "I wouldn't ever do that because then the Feds would know where I was".


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..((((((ppga)))))))

..sending hope and good mojo to all of your family.

..letting them sink or swim is tough for sure!

..'tough love' is tough on everybody in the mix.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4120 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((PPGA)))
Oh dear Pain, I fear his Feds remark IS really be a paranoid event. Whether it's schizophrenic, that's for a professional to decide. It doesn't sound bipolar to me, though. (((PPGA)))


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7180 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He called me at midnight last nite to tell me he went to his shrink appt yesterday and his meds are being changed.

I wasn't too happy to be awakened at midnight, but I was glad to know he was okay.

He sounded clear. This is all just so bizarre.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It a very good thing that he still cares enough to call you and let you know that he is OK and that he saw his dr. My fear has been that if I force DS out that I will lose all contact. (((PPGA)))


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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