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User Topic: Huge NB Possibility!
want_to_forgive
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have definitely been lucky with how easy it was to separate my fiances from Ex's in the divorce. We each owned our own houses, his mom lived in his and he just moved in with her. The problem has been that Ex won't get his things out of my house or my shop. The place if filled to the brim with his things. Also, he lives literally four houses down from me.

My solution? Ask him to buy my house. At first he said "I don't want your house." But he came around. I knew he would.

So this is where I am at: I am 90% sure I am going to qualify for a new $200,000 house loan. We came to an agreement on the sale price for my place. He is at the bank right now trying to qualify. If this works out, I will get to take my things and walk away. I will have $60,000 in equity without having to go through the nightmare of getting the house ready to sell. I will use $45,000 for a down on a new place, buy new furniture, and start 100% fresh. He even agreed to give me a 3 month grace period to find a new place and close on it.

I am so excited! Please keep your fingers crossed, I should know by tomorrow if it is going to go through.


M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

Posts: 534 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Alaska
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This sounds WONDERFUL! And exciting-- and I so have my fingers crossed that it works out for you!


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2114 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds potentially fabulous! Mojo to you!!!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If this works out, I will get to take my things and walk away.

Fingers crossed!

Oh, how I dream of this. I would have run as fast as I could and left it all if I didn't have children with him. And I would never have looked back.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5560 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
want_to_forgive
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just got the call from the Mortgage company... I'm approved! Now I just have to wait to see if he can get his loan.


M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

Posts: 534 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Alaska
gma56
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Sounds very promising !
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20375 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending Mortgage Mojo for your X.

That just sounds weird.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5113 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seconding Mortgage MOJO for the X!! (How often will you hear that said here??? )


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4113 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
fadedrainbow
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Default  Posted: 4:15 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keeping my fingers crossed for it to go through smoothly. Yeah!!!! Good riddance to bad rubbish!!!!!


me: FBW
D-Day May 2005
divorced December 2009


Posts: 135 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: UK
want_to_forgive
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, he didn't qualify for the loan. Sigh. I guess that would have been too easy.

Now he is saying that he will get a smaller loan and build a shop on the property where he lives with his mom. It will take him most of the summer to build, so I guess I am stuck with his things in my house/yard/shop for several more months. AND, he will still be living four houses away from me. Goodie.

At least I know I qualify for my own home loan if I decide to list my house and sell it to an outside party. I might get more for it that way, but it will be a pain getting it ready to sell. I'm thinking it would be worth it to be away from him and get a fresh start in a home that isn't tainted with the stain of my miserable marriage.

Other than that bump in the road, life is good! I LOVE being single and divorced from that jackass. Wish I had done it years ago.


M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

Posts: 534 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Alaska
gma56
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Default  Posted: 2:15 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm thinking it would be worth it to be away from him and get a fresh start in a home that isn't tainted with the stain of my miserable marriage
I will tell you for me it has been priceless. I have NO legal/ personal connection to FT and it is wonderful !

You go girl.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20375 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
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