Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: KevinTheAsshole (45445)

New Beginnings Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: That internal voice
Sad in AZ
♀ Member
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Often, saying it out loud (or writing it on a backlit screen) is enough to get the process started. We've all either been forced or forced ourselves on a journey of self-discovery; the results are not always what we expected, but they are the truth. Whether the truth hurts or heals is up to you. I'm glad to hear that you are healing.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
cmego
♀ Member
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is funny...healing.

You think you have healed, and then time shows you that in fact, you have not.

I can look back now and see the markers of healing and know I'm just about there.

I decided to take my kids to a hotel that ex and I used to always visit. It was one of my favorite beaches. I reclaimed it this weekend. Brought the kids here on my own, expecting to trigger...and I haven't. I've been more fucking proud of myself than anything.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Amazonia
♀ Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe try focusing on growth rather than healing. I don't know if any of us will ever "arrive". It's kind of one of those processes that keeps going as long as you keep wanting to grow.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13812 | Registered: Jul 2011
missherlots
♂ Member
Member # 30591
Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you all are getting that feeling because you are comparing with yourself with someone else.
Look from the spiritual point of view and you will see that you all are beyond beautifull for what you are. No need to be this or that.
everything you need is inside you but you do not want to see it because You look it in someone else.
Stop see everything from the human point of view and see who you are in a higher level.
the light is inside you all, just let it get out to iluminate your ways.
Sorry for the typos and grammar.


Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.

Posts: 96 | Registered: Jan 2011
cmego
♀ Member
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When you are beginning your growth/healing process, I guess my point is along the way you think, "I've done a lot of growth/healing!!", then you look back and realize it was just the beginning.

It is like a lightbulb went off in me this last week...I can see what people have been trying to tell me.

So, now, I'm tackling this deeper issue of the internal negative voice. I am making a choice to change it. But, it has taken me almost 3 years to even recognize the...problem.

I do feel like I've come a long way in my own growth/healing and I like it. I kinda like me. Someday, someone else maybe will like me too.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4187 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Topic Posts: 25
Pages: 1 · 2

Return to Forum: New Beginnings Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.