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User Topic: Trying not to get sucked back in
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ex-shat keeps sending me cute Teslet pics. Ugh. I had to put his texts on silent because I just want to text something back..."so cute" or "looks like he's having fun" or something like that. But I can't. I can't get sucked back in no matter how much I miss the little guy. I'm telling myself that Teslet is asking for the pics to be sent so I don't go down the slippery slope of "why is he texting?"

Ok, I've got a list of things to get through today...time to go keep myself busy.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4618 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think my STBX POS has always used the kids as his biggest tool for hoovering. He did that with me and MOW.. He would always talk about the kids to try to get us to be nice to him or see him. But that's the sad part, he would do it to BOTH of us, so I saw through that fairly quickly..

FTG.. When you start feeling sentimental about him, remember that stripper whore is probably just outside the frame..


And guess what Tesla? It's Thursday already!! Only a few more days to go!! Maybe instead of thinking about how there is so much time left, think of it as your time is running out to get things done. Better get crackin!!


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2230 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just remember that this is the guy who broke into your home and stole your dog. And can't pay his child support on time. He sucks.

Posts: 1675 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
TrustNoOne
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is not your friend. He is not sending pics for you or for teslet, no matter what he's telling himself to allow him to sleep at night.

The pics are about him - see, I'm a good dad. Our son is having fun. I can't be an ex-shat if our son loves me this much. Look at me. Blahblahblah

Do not trust the intentions of someone who has demonstrated they have no good intentions toward you.

He's an ex-shat. He will remain an ex-shat.

Your boy will be home soon :) Try to enjoy your me-time. That's important too!


Posts: 1323 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: SoCal
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"why is he texting?"

Cause he's an ass.

It's good that you have some new pix of Teslet. Ignore the rest.

And maybe it's a nice afternoon to have a cold beer on the porch or something?


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 745 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"why is he texting?"

Try thinking of him as being a functional coparent in this scenario, letting you know that your child is doing well and having fun, keeping a line of communication open for a child too young to have his own phone who misses Mama.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This happens with "us" too, but is only on his terms, so I also work to not write back.

DD has gotten into a new habit I'm trying to break, also, where she will actually ask me to send him some kind of message or picture...I'm trying to avoid it and any ideas would be welcome, especially so I don't have to hurt her feelings.

I like what the post say about him trying to keep the lines open for Teslet especially, but something happens with "us, too, where Perv will put pictures of DD up on FB and wherever else he haunts online and this bothers me because I don't know who will see her or have access to her pictures.

He has no idea why this is intrusive to her and bothers me so and fights me on it.

I am trying to make more noise with L about it and will ask for any input here as well, if no one minds me jumping in on Tesla's thread to ask!


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2229 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its easier to cope with when they are being their usual fucktard selves. Basic decency from them can put us a little off-kilter.

You're aching for your Teslet so this is the time you are most vulnerable.

I get it hun. Only a few more days. Hold tight mamma. Shields up.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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