She has been disordered her whole life, but my family just wants to brush it under the rug ("Oh, that's just her way.") and I'm just not willing to do that. Mostly because I always end-up maligned when I'm around her. I think it's very important for PDs to "make" someone else "bad", so that they can feel good.
OMG!!! That is exactly RIGHT!! And that is exactly how my family acts about it. The only time it's bad to them is when she is attacking them. But as long as it's me, nobody much cares. And they seem to make every excuse in the book for her and even BLAME ME!!
And like your sister, mine has been disordered most of her adult life. I seem to be her favorite target for some reason. And the attacks have gotten more verbally violent, worse name calling (pedophile) with lots of f-bombs)
I am just so sick of it all. The ridiculous shit she has accused me of hasn't even been close to being true.
[This message edited by sadtoo at 10:52 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)]
When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
OC born 2001 (I didn't know)
Remarried 2008 (Happy!)
The ridiculous shit she has accused me of hasn't even been close to being true.
I have a very wonderful friend who has a mother that is NPD, and a nut, and her sister is following in her footsteps. She made the choice about 10 years ago to extricate them from her life, she has never been happier with that decision. She accepts that she has nothing to do with how they are, and can't fix it. She has zero drama on holidays, and gatherings, and quite likes it.
I guess my point is you too can choose to not be part of it, and live happily ever after too.
Um, and tell mom the Hysterectomy, was not the cause, I'm still chuckling over that one.
What makes it worse is that there is a part of me that loves them but I cannot have a relationship because no matter how hard I try I am a moving target. I don't have any advice other than NC.
Even though I'm NC I still have to process their antics when I hear about them. I'm sorry that you are in her cross hairs.
This is not the first time she has done this to me. And for the sake of "family harmony" I have continued to forgive this outrageous behavior WITHOUT any apologies, EVER. Then I continue walking on eggshells until the next fallout.
But this is the LAST time she is going to verbally assault and abuse me. I don't deserve it and I certainly don't have to put up with it.
I have blocked her telephone numbers and her husband's telephone number from my and my husband's phones. I have also blocked their email.
I contacted my cousin who was here visiting and explained what has happened. I told her that I suspected that my sister may have gotten her F/b password and suggested she change it. We had very nice discussion. She knew something was wrong with J after she had been at her house for just a short while.
Now I'll just need to deal with my mother.