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User Topic: My crazy sister
sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She has been disordered her whole life, but my family just wants to brush it under the rug ("Oh, that's just her way.") and I'm just not willing to do that. Mostly because I always end-up maligned when I'm around her. I think it's very important for PDs to "make" someone else "bad", so that they can feel good.

OMG!!! That is exactly RIGHT!! And that is exactly how my family acts about it. The only time it's bad to them is when she is attacking them. But as long as it's me, nobody much cares. And they seem to make every excuse in the book for her and even BLAME ME!!

And like your sister, mine has been disordered most of her adult life. I seem to be her favorite target for some reason. And the attacks have gotten more verbally violent, worse name calling (pedophile) with lots of f-bombs)

I am just so sick of it all. The ridiculous shit she has accused me of hasn't even been close to being true.

[This message edited by sadtoo at 10:52 PM, June 23rd (Sunday)]


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


Posts: 8004 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The ridiculous shit she has accused me of hasn't even been close to being true.
I know, but the longer you maintain NC, the more difficult it becomes for them to make-up somewhat believable stories.

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sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're right. Thank you so much.


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


Posts: 8004 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Iowa
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, June 24th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((sadtoo))))
It sucks, these are the people we are supposed stand by no matter what, and they us. But Crazy is Crazy, and if Crazy aint seeing it as Crazy there is nothing you can do to fix it or change it.

I have a very wonderful friend who has a mother that is NPD, and a nut, and her sister is following in her footsteps. She made the choice about 10 years ago to extricate them from her life, she has never been happier with that decision. She accepts that she has nothing to do with how they are, and can't fix it. She has zero drama on holidays, and gatherings, and quite likes it.
I guess my point is you too can choose to not be part of it, and live happily ever after too.

Um, and tell mom the Hysterectomy, was not the cause, I'm still chuckling over that one.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Opheliapain
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Default  Posted: 1:29 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sadtoo - I have two sisters with personality disorders. Mean as rattlesnakes and their stories change to make them the permanent victim and they will do mean spirited things to other members of our family and then remember that they were the victims. Both have change memories and stick with the story even if there is proof otherwise (like my mother didn't let one go to prom because a different sister didn't go and my mom didn't want different sister to feel bad. But the sister making this claim has PICTURES at prom that did not occur).

AGGGGGGHHHHHHH!

What makes it worse is that there is a part of me that loves them but I cannot have a relationship because no matter how hard I try I am a moving target. I don't have any advice other than NC.

Even though I'm NC I still have to process their antics when I hear about them. I'm sorry that you are in her cross hairs.


Me - BW 38
Him - WH 33
Don't fuck with me fellas! This ain't my first time at the rodeo!
DD - 3/28/11

Posts: 177 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Indiana
sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 2:59 AM, June 25th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have made the decision that NC is the only answer for this situation.

This is not the first time she has done this to me. And for the sake of "family harmony" I have continued to forgive this outrageous behavior WITHOUT any apologies, EVER. Then I continue walking on eggshells until the next fallout.

But this is the LAST time she is going to verbally assault and abuse me. I don't deserve it and I certainly don't have to put up with it.

I have blocked her telephone numbers and her husband's telephone number from my and my husband's phones. I have also blocked their email.

I contacted my cousin who was here visiting and explained what has happened. I told her that I suspected that my sister may have gotten her F/b password and suggested she change it. We had very nice discussion. She knew something was wrong with J after she had been at her house for just a short while.

Now I'll just need to deal with my mother.


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


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